On one hand I posit that engineers need to be motivated and incentivized to do things, but on the other I'm a staunch believer in mutualism and communities that work together for a greater good.

How do I reconcile the two, given that contradiction?

Because we live in an incredibly individualistic society in which power is unbalanced and concentrated the higher up you go.

@baweaver yeah, this is just how people act in adversarial, zero sum situations. It's really unfortunate that this US the situation we do often find ourselves in, but engineers didn't create it and can't stop it.
@jenniferplusplus I still believe it can change, but it's never a quick process.
@baweaver it's certainly possible, yeah. The path probably goes through cooperatives. And certainly through a ressurgent labor movement. So, not a small task.