@TheCube @Rachelk That sucks. Communities for gaming in general are pretty hit and miss. A couple years bac, I was in a group that pretty much allowed those people who were losing to make loud noise to distract the others. Oh and they loved to trash talk too. I dealt with and ignored it, but I felt awkward as hell.
Sadly my stay in that group didn't last long. I invited a friend of mine to join, and apparently I didn't clear it well enough. Iirc, I asked if she could join the group and no one said no, so yes I took that as an indication that I was allowed to share the guest account I had been given. Turns out that was the wrong thing to do. I could tell there was tention building after our game started. Halfway through, they all just started leaving one by one, probably to have a little private conference, and next thing I knew, the guest account that my friend and I had been using to log in was gone. And no one wanted to be mature and communicate and try to make things right. I guess it was just easier for them to show us we weren't worth having around, and expendible at the first inconvenience.
Anyhow I hope that if you wanna play the game again, you can find a better community. There are definitely nice people around who wouldn't bash you no matter how badly you did.