It's been a source of mild bemusement to me that I'm much happier using the category of "girl" to describe myself than "woman," even as this category gets less and less applicable. (I'm forty-something, so.)
And I was like "Maybe I am simply very immature, and unwilling to grow up."
But recently I have been thinking about "crone," a category I also like very much.
And maybe one thing these two categories have in common is that they aren't sexualized, and maybe as an ace person, I feel a discomfort with the sort of default sexualization of "woman," but actually that doesn't feel right, to me.
So *maybe* what these things have in common is that are both categories you can't really demand things of. "Woman" has many demands placed on it.
Which like ,you live in a society, betty, you need to make contributions.
@Betty I've been using "spinster" very happily since I was 27, for related reasons. Although I can't spin.
...Maybe my true gender is "pedant."
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