quinnMay 18, 2024

hey fedi,

has anyone here successfully changed their last name in Germany on the reason that the relationship with their parents is very broken and they need a new one to distance themselves from their parents?

i would really like to do that and want to see if anyone else did something similar

Show threadTenkoman
@quinn It can cost up to 1000 EUR in bureaucracy costs (and can even denied by your city hall - and you need to present a good reason, if no marriage/divorce/adoption) - I know a mutual from my school days was successful, since her grandfather was a close relative to a higher-up nazi and she wanted to break ties to that cursed family name - and took her mother's maiden name.
May 18, 2024 at 8:45pmWeb
Show threadquinnMay 18, 2024
@tenkoman i'm more specifically looking for people whose good reason was a severely broken relationship with their parents which caused mental health issues - i can likely get a doctor's note confirming this
Show threadtowoMay 18, 2024
@quinn @tenkoman Yeah, legally, that's a bit of a toughie, since there's no explicit sample case for this in the regulation; you'd either have to scout out the EWMA to check if they're amenable to this, or else probably prepare for legal debate.
(This stems mainly from the fact that people associated with e.g. murderers that don't have a discernible impact on their life because of that name can't change their name only to "distance" themselves.)
Show threadtowoMay 18, 2024
@quinn @tenkoman Mental health might really be the lynchpin to get that argued if it should come to court.