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Mom’s 81, very active, fiercely independent, and totally unable to acknowledge that she’s physically frail. We’ve gradually arrived at a combination of things so she feels independent but can reach out, and I’m reasonably certain she’s not dead yet.
We text each other Wordle results every day. If I don’t get Wordle from her by 11, I call her. She knows it’s a low-key way of checking on her, but finds it amusing. Especially when she wins.
We have a shared calendar she puts things on that she agrees I should know about it. There were many discussions until she agreed it would be helpful if I knew about doctor’s appointments and camping reservations.
We both use iPhones so she’s shared her location with me and I can “find my mom”. Helpful to make sure she made it to the camping site.
We both have Alexa and have each other saved on the thing as a contact. Helpful when she’s trying to fix the plumbing and finds herself stuck under the sink. “Alexa, drop in on Annie…. Annie, I’m stuck, bring vise grips and a vanilla latte.”
I got her an Apple Watch and it’s truly fantastic at fall detection. It will call 911 if you don’t respond to it in a certain time. Helpful if the cats have joined forces to lay an elaborate trap that not only tripped you, but knocked you out.
She has an “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” button necklace that used to be Grandma’s. She tends to get it caught on things, which accidentally pushes the button. The monitoring people call me first, and will spend an hour trying to get hold of me before calling 911. Helpful if she falls in her house and breaks her hip, but probably not for things that need a timely response like heart attack, or stroke, or being attacked by the swarm of rabid raccoons you were trying to feed s’mores to.