obligatory bear post - Lemmy Cafe

is the man or bear thing [https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/news/2024/04/30/man-bear-tiktok-debate-explainer/73519921007/] rhetorically or optically the perfect feminist meme that is beyond criticism? no. but is it leaps and bounds better at getting men to understand the material consequences of patriarchy on the physical and emotional health of women than that stupid “kill all men” meme from last decade? definitely.

Depends what you mean by feminism if you mean feminism as equality for all then great.

If you mean feminism as you see a lot of today then maybe not. The fact you never see feminism calling out shitty, toxic female behaviour shows a lot of the picture is missing.

Holding up everything that lives under the feminism banner as infallible is dangerous. Plenty of low income white guys have been pushed aside for feminism and then told they have all this privilege for living in a place with no economic prospects and they are responsible for how the world was made before they were born.

if you see “feminists” excusing shitty behavior, call them the fuck out for it

bad feminists don’t excuse you inserting yourself into a conversation women are having about their lived experiences

I do. Then you normally get called sexist by other women.

Like I said you never see feminism, or almost never see, women accepting there is ever anything wrong with feminism. Women need to take more responsibility over shitty women’s behaviour.

women need to take responsibility over shitty women’s behavior.

absolutely the fuck not. and you wonder why you get called sexist lmao. 😭

Dude the entire point of the “#AllMen” and “#YesAllMen” was that women need men’s help to police shitty behaviour from other men.

Half the point of the bear meme is that men hide their power level from women until it’s too late.

Why is it suddenly different when someone suggests women do their part?

Because—and I’ll say this slowly for you—in this scenario, women are the victims.

Would you demand that the victim of a mugging do their part to stop the mugger from mugging?

Would you demand that the victim of a mugging do their part to stop the mugger from mugging?

That’s the purpose of self defense classes

By a similar logic, it’s also the purpose of home security systems.