An estimated 1/4 men admit to sexual coercion, but the title reads "not most men."
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What is bugging me about the men dying early thread?
What is bugging me about the men dying early thread? - Lemmy.World
First of all, men dying early from overdoses, suicide, risky behavior, certainly IS a topic worth discussing. It needs to change. In discussing the topic, however, several people (including me) have pointed out that it’s a problem only men can solve. They need to be more emotionally open, more willing to ask for help, more vulnerable to friendships and emotional connection with other men and women they don’t want to sleep with. Such suggestions are heavily downvoted and may with “can you imagine if peiple said that to women about women’s issues?!?” But here’s the thing. Women’s issues are being restored, beaten by their husbands, murdered, treated like dirt in the workforce, having the safe slave they carve out for themselves invaded, discounted when seeking medical care, being paid less for doing the same work, being expected to take care of everyone else instead of themselves. Except for maybe that last point, they are all issues that are being done to them by men. Women can’t stop men from being violent. And women-only spaces are typically used to commune, to feel safe. Men-only spaces are used to exploit and consume women. They aren’t equivalent. But the issues for men are largely being done to themselves by themselves. Suicide and drug addiction are self-inflicted. Women can’t stop men from harming themselves any more than they can stop them from harming women. It’s not an equivalent problem.
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I'm not a survivor, I'm a victim. (Vent)
I'm not a survivor, I'm a victim. (Vent) - Lemmy.World
I have been living as a victim of ongoing abuse for almost 20 years. (Yes, I got out of the relationship 15 years ago, and no, it didn’t stop the abuse.) It infuriates me how people try to force the term “survivor” on me. One survives hurricanes, floods, fire, cancer. One is a victim of a crime. And what he did was a crime, not an inevitable thing that happened to me. I don’t care if people want to call themselves survivor. I used to, too. Until I realized that it shifts the focus. It minimizes. What happened to me had a perpetrator, someone who, unlike cancer, had the capacity to choose other than what he did. Let’s stop acting like violence against women is a force of nature, a necessary evil to endure, or anything other than a criminal act. Yeah, I survived. I didn’t have a choice to do anything BUT survive. Let’s stop talking about it and start talking about stopping it.
How do you stop yourself from participating so much in a conversing while still caring about the topic?
How do you stop yourself from participating so much in a conversing while still caring about the topic? - Lemmy.world
When I was in 2nd grade, I was stuck in a corner for participating too much. This character flaw has followed me all my life. My ex told me people didn’t like me because I shared my thoughts too much, and I just got feedback from my boss about the same thing. The thing is, I’ve tried to stop my whole life. I only participate maybe 10% of the time, and I generally try to let others speak first unless no one is speaking up. But I’m still getting this feedback. I’m like a bull in a china shop, knocking down everyone no matter how careful I try to be. The only solution I can come up with is to assume no one wants to hear from me and disengage. Stop caring, stop thinking, and stop participating altogether. I already feel isolated from everyone. This is just making it worse. I think I have to face the fact that I’m not welcome in any degree. Any other ideas?
Design Challenges?
Design Challenges? - LemmyWorld
What are your thoughts on design challenges in interviews? I have been asked to do design challenges, and I walked away. Some startups use “design challenges” to get free work out of interviewees, and that’s never a good sign for actually getting a paycheck. There’s nothing purposeful in a design challenge that couldn’t be achieved by having applicants just talk through their design process.