because people change their pronouns and they get pissed off if you use the wrong one.

I’ve had trans people tell me their pronoun. OK, cool. Then a few weeks/months later, they change it. Then they jump down my throat for not knowing the new one they have picked.

Look, most trans people are cool, but there are a few out there who are DETERMINED to be complete assholes about it, no matter how hard you try.

All of them now. It only takes a few times of being physical threatened and verbally assaulted before you just decide it’s not worth it. IME the ratio of cool trans people to psychos is 1:1, so it’s 50/50.

I get they feel ‘under threat’ but taking it out on well-meaning people who support you isn’t the answer… and frankly a few years ago it was never big deal. But like I said me not being ‘up’ on the latest pronoun you choose used to be NBD a few years ago… now it’s ‘erasing my existence’ or some crazy extremest nonsense. I have no interest in interacting with extremists.

“You can’t know if someone is a dipshit until after you interact with them, btw.” That you said that is kinda at odds with what you are saying now.

If you are going to treat all members of a group as being the same as the worst members you have met then you are just choosing to be a bigot.

The issue isn’t trans people as a whole. It’s also not even close to half of trans people. There is something unique about your situation.