MrJameGumbAnon seeks advice for real world problems
GrymEdm“Night owl” sleep preference is a real thing and isn’t a choice (being largely genetic). Night owls forced to obey a daytime schedule suffer from what researchers call “social jet lag” because it constantly feels like they’re living in the wrong time zone. Here’s a 3-minute AsapSCIENCE video with more details for anyone interested.
Early Birds vs Night Owls
LyreIm not going to disagree with you, but i have this nagging suspicion that most people who think they are “night owls” are really just shining a phone light in their face every night and confusing their sleep cycle.
For some that’s definitely true. It’s well known that light (especially blue) can disrupt someone’s circadian rhythm.
Wow you had that source fast… Nicely done
☂️-im aware too much light is bad. didnt they disprove the blue light thing?
Did they? I’ll have to look. I know reputable sources were talking about blue light specifically as of a few years ago, but science always changes so it’s possible. I’d love a link if you’ve got it, but don’t feel obligated.
And definitely a lot of it is just that people have gotten used to it. People think they have insomnia because every time they try to go to bed early they can’t sleep but they’re doing it the wrong way. They should wake up early and go to bed when they start to feel sleepy and work on sleep hygiene (including even a short walk outside). It won’t be fixed in a day.
Night owls have been a thing since long before cell phones existed
The increase in people who can’t sleep because of cell phone usage at night has increased because of cell phones. This is a well known thing. No one is saying night owls didn’t exist before cellphones.
It also changed with age for me. And I feel like I also influenced it by getting to bed on time almost everyday, and putting away the phone.
So I understand that it might be very difficult, it was the same for me, and I managed to change it.
Still feel tired if I have to wake up before 7 am, no matter how much I slept, but that’s mostly avoidable.
You presented with the same visible symptoms, but we don’t know if your illness had the same amount of resistance to treatment
That may be true, but at least the genes for night owls are present in more people than the genes for early birds.
So it should be expected that, regardless of phone usage, over half of the population will go to bed and wake up ~2-3h later than expected.
If your timezone is closely aligned with the sun, that’d be 22:00-06:00 for early birds and 01:00-09:00 for night owls,. But if your timezone isn’t, both of these times would shift around.
For me personally, no matter when I go to bed, whether it’s 22:00 or 03:00, I always wake up precisely 09:30 without any alarm clock. But this also means if I have to wake up earlier, e.g. at 8am, I’ll be very tired and not well rested.
I solved this by working nights. Get in the habit of staying up until morning. Then you’re used to being awake at those times mentioned in the OP.
Interestingly, waking up on a pleasant warm afternoon mitigates some of the ick of waking up after insufficient sleep. Waking up at 5am to go somewhere sounds like torture. Waking up at 5pm to go somewhere is a piece of cake. You’d think your body would feel the same, if it got the same amount of sleep, but it doesn’t. The ick goes away on a nights schedule.
Morning people and extroverts have no idea there’s anyone else.
What’s even the point of a virgin GF? Is this some bizarre “look but don’t touch” fetish?
yes, the fetish is called patriarchy
I mean, that is often how engineering school works out.
It’s called being asexual.
SharkEatingBreakfastAce here: no it’s not. Don’t drag us into incel-leanings, please.
Speak for yourself. I’m asexual and a virgin as far as genitals and orifices go. I’m a virgin partner and I’m answering someone’s honest question about whether people like me are an incel fetish. We’re not, we’re queer people. You want to call me an incel for being queer, fuck off.
I’m definitely an enthusiastic sex haver if we’re counting chaos magick tho.
What are you even saying?
Being in a relationship without having sex isn’t a fetish, it isn’t an incel thing, it’s a queer thing. As much as the other asexual in this thread would have you believe otherwise.
I’m going to reply with the assumption that you are unfamiliar with 4ch×n, based on your wildly unnecessary aggressive reply.
You can be an asexual virgin.
My point was: not all virgins are asexual and not all asexual folks are virgins.
Lumping asexuality in with 4ch×n-speak of “pure virgin gf = best gf because non-virgin = whore” ain’t it.
Nobody in this thread mentioned “pure” virgin gfs or said virgin partners are better than sexually active partners. I was answering a question that’s applicable to myself in a direct and literal sense by explaining my queerness. You responded with hostility, accused my queerness of being the result of an incel fetish, and used this other weird tangential thing to explain your actions while continuing to insult me. Did you at any point consider being nice?
Also you’re being really pedantic in a linguistically inappropriate way. You keep stressing the point that there isn’t a 1:1 relationship between asexuality and virginity. Nobody made that assertion. Somebody asked about virgins in relationships and asked what it was and I responded “it’s called being asexual”. That’s not a statement that every virgin is asexual, nor is it a statement that every asexual is a virgin. It’s a colloquialism establishing an explanation for at least one occurrence. You read superfluous meaning into something I said and proceeded to repeatedly I’m wrong about something I didn’t say. It’s mean, cut it out.
It just means they want a girlfriend who hasn’t had sex with a prior partner.
So they want someone they can relate to?
10am isn’t early by anyone’s definition.
Anon should seek help to fix his sleep!