Ned Yeung
apophis@ned this is the sort of thing that keeps planting a doubt in my mind if it's possible that very few people are actually inherently trans and our mainstream understanding of gender roles and identities is just so deranged, arbitrary, unforgiving and *narrow* that some folks are forced to identify as a different gender from their agabs just to get anything done
which probably arises from a conflation of a lot of things, come to think of it...
RomanceReviews@apophis @ned I think about this a lot!
Firstly, it is super important to believe people when they identify their gender, no matter if that seems like a match to us or not and regardless of if we think people are being strongly led to choose one label or another (that cuts in all the directions. We have to treat people as reliable narrators of their gender experience.)
Secondly, *yes* the mainstream definition of woman is so fucking narrow! I identify as a gender non-conforming woman, the mainstream lane was too narrow but I'm just putting safety flags on my corners and carrying on tooling down the road.