I’ve posted a bunch of #TransTimelineThursday posts and I’m very conscious about how reductive they are by nature — not only do they (necessarily) only show physical changes, they also gloss over the effort and often significant pain involved, mental and physical.

I had my 6th session for laser hair removal yesterday and soon will move to electrolysis, since so many hairs now lack sufficient pigment. Along with this hurting a lot (and it does, even with lidocaine), I also end up splotchy, puffy, and tender, like a recent sunburn. Even so, I often cry with relief after.

Here’s me in November 2022, 1 month before starting HRT and 7 months before starting hair removal, and me yesterday. These transitions are hard-fought, and I value every photo I see posted. No matter how small you might think the visible change is, I know what is happening to get there. My love to you all. 

Bonus picture of me today, having mostly recovered but still unable to shave yet
@caroline Whew! You have recovered nicely, Ms. Cuteness!! 😍
@caroline Yeah... We see the cuties, we don't usually see the pain and suffering it took to get there.
@theartlav @caroline trying to find the right way to say it and not finding it. It's nice to see, because the later photos are a wonderful showcase for trans joy which is always good to spread and thank you for touching on how it's a journey of many steps to reach such a place 🫂🏳️‍⚧️🫂
@theartlav @Nikkileah yeah it was weighing on me a lot, I don’t want to contribute to this idea it’s actually a magic button (much as we might wish it). My friends doing electrolysis aren’t just enduring the painful session itself, but also the dysphoric anguish for days before not being able to shave so hairs can reach sufficient length. Friends who’ve had top surgery (both kinds!) couldn’t lift their small children for months. Friends having had facial surgery may have lasting nerve damage. These are rarely easy or casual processes. And STILL we do these, and persevere, and show how worth it the anguish was. But I do want to not forget how we got here.