Katrina Marie; She/Her 🐣 🏳️‍⚧️ 🦄Nov 20, 2023

I am who I’ve always been. You’re just seeing the me inside coming out. The feelings I’ve always felt have been given words. And now that they have been spoken, there is no bottling them up again. I don’t know what the future holds. You say we will always be friends and you will always love me. And it sounds like you’re trying to say goodbye. I cried almost nonstop for a day. We yelled about how we were both hurting.

If I gave you an out. Now, without any blame or anger, would you take it‽ Those words I cannot voice. Because I’m afraid the answer is yes. I fear going through this change alone. I fear being judged by those who mean the most to me. I fear no one loving me the same again. I fear you stopped loving me a long time ago.

I am who I’ve always been. And I’m sorry I never told you sooner.

Show threadDaddyScruffDec 8, 2023
@NovaHellion I read this and thought what if my best friend came out as trans and decided to start living their true selves.what would my feelings be? I would hope that of love and support. But I often here scenarios of people feeling like the are losing a part of someone that they are so used to. It would be a challenge for both but one thing that the support needs to understand is that anything and everything they THINK there’re going through is NOTHING
Show threadDaddyScruff
compared to what the the actual trans person is experiencing. We get so caught up in in our feelings that we can forget that our loved ones need us the most in those times. I’m sure I’d probably think “Why didn’t let me know sooner I could have been there or At least trying to have been as supportive as possible.”
Dec 8, 2023 at 2:25pmWeb
Show threadDaddyScruffDec 8, 2023
Even from that perspective is a double standard. I was 33 when I came out to my family. It took 33 years of discovering who the hell I was and then finding the courage to accept whatever circumstances due to my decision to come out. Some people never come out. We all walk our own journeys in our own time. I would hope that I would be smart enough to put my feelings aside and just be there.