If feel like us guys are at a disadvantage here. All our lives were are told not to complain unless we bring a solution, not to cry, get up, keep moving.

Then suddenly the thought pattern we have been trained on all our lives turns out to not be healthy for supporting others and it’s a hard transition to make when we want so desperately to help and are asked not to.

Not saying it’s wrong, just hard.

it’s a hard transition to make when we want so desperately to help and are asked not to.

Listening is helping. It took me a while to get that, but we’re helping just by being quiet.

Yes, but there's a disconnect between helping directly and helping indirectly. Listening is indirect help, passive help. It's helping simply by existing, which is antithetical to the above commenters train of logic.

I'm not saying you're wrong, or that it's not something that people should learn to do... but it's not always something you can solve by making that connection.