@wslack oh yes! It is so much easier to blame others rather than seeing what you can do differently.
#terrypratchett was indeed a very wise man!
Casting yourself as the eternal victim leaves you up a certain creek without a certain rowing instrument. Grab the paddle, take control of where you go.
10%/90% rule: 10% is 💩 happens, 90% is what you do about it.
@neil_h I'm not sure that's the point of the passage. This is about who does the wrongs and who can do wrongs. All of us can harm others.
People can be victims of history/disease/accident etc AND take control with what they have. Those aren't contradictions.
@wslack no, of course they're not contradictions.
However, too often people blame "Them" for a situation and continue to complain without doing anything.
I have a friend who continually complains about her spouse's disinterest in her and their children. But never does anything even to try and change herself or the situation.
My conclusion: her satisfaction at being the victim is greater than her distress.
My reaction: I change the subject as soon as she gets started. My canoe, my paddle.
@wslack but thanks to you, as well.
Got me thinking.
And that's possibly part of the point of the passage.
wslack
Neil