jacobaaronAlways wondered how they feel
Maybe they are not insecure?
Be as secure as you will, if you see your SO in a romance scene in a typical hig h profile movie with all the right camera angles and music and all... it's bound to do at least something to you, right?
No that’s the point. If you are not insecure and trust your partner then you know it’s just acting.
I'm not suggesting that they might assume any of the acted scene had real feelings behind it. Yet still, visually seeing your SO doing intimate stuff will make you feel something. You might not be jealous or anything, yet still. That has nothing to do with insecurity. You can feel awkward without jealousy, can't you?
There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars. It’s just their work at the end of the day.
I’m sure plenty of people don’t really feel anything about it.
There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars.
From a purely logical standpoint, given the number of strippers and porn stars out there, that statement must be true. It’s not quite something I can wrap my head around though.
there are also people who genuinely feel happy for their SOs in these situations. Compersion is real and fucking wonderful. not enough people know 'bout it.
kadotuxAs a former polyamoric person, here’s how I (still) think of it: You can’t control your feelings (they are merely physical reactions to situations) but you can control how you deal with them. Or how you act on them.
So in a sense, in my opinion, you’re both correct.
So in a sense, in my opinion, you’re both correct.
And that right there is the kind of attitude that gets you into polyamoric situations.
theneverfoxI mean, it comes down to jealousy, right? And that’s an emotion… You can’t really control your emotions
I think it’s more a matter of “is this a deal breaker”. Some people just might avoid those movies, some people might need to see it and get reassurance, some people can’t handle it at all. And some people just aren’t bothered - there’s people who are fine with their partner dating other people so long as they come home at the end of the night
You are in fact the only person that control your emotions.
You can control your reaction to your emotions, and you can change yourself.
You can’t control your emotions themselves though, just the before and after
tacosanonymousLike, get me horny?
That's definetly one of the possibilities. I never had a relationship with a movie star who did such scenes, so I wouldn't know.
SzethFriendOfNimiNot really. Especially when you know what goes into filming them. From modesty underwear to lighting to 30 people around you just doing their thing for the production.
As a spouse of an actor you’d think you know just how “fake” the music and emotional impact is.
Nope, I’ve seen my wife fuck someone else for free I’m just happy she got laid. If I get what I need idgaf
Being you must suck pretty bad.
quantenzitronenot as bad as ur mom, lmao gottem
Not really we’re both naturally polyamorous. I’ve had another partner for almost as long as I’ve been with her. I’ve tried the whole monogamy thing and it wasn’t right for me.
Yeah, and that something can be communicated. But at the end of the day it’s their job. I follow a therapist on YouTube that talks about his wife’s modeling career on occasion and he never really cared. He saw the work that goes into it and knows it’s just that - work. I think on the rare occasions it did bring up some feelings of jealousy he communicated the insecurity and got reassurance from her. That obviously worked well enough that they’ve been married a couple decades.
On the work end, keep in mind how many times they have to shoot scenes/photos and how extremely unromantic/inauthentic it is.
Psychology in Seattle, perhaps?
Hell yes, deserving listener!
Only if you care at all about them and your relationship.
Why do people equate being secure with being ok seeing your wife kiss another guy? You can be secure and still against it
Why would you?
Just because you wouldn’t be doesn’t mean everyone is the same, people have feelings. Even polyamorous people get jealous at times, it’s a normal thing.
I’m so secure that my wife’s boyfriend told me he was taking her away to the cabin for the weekend and I decided I’d have the guys over for a poker night. They’re just good friends.
It’s cool, John Redcorn is just helping with her headaches
A poker night and a poke-her night. Symmetry!
OneWomanCreamTeamI mean, that sounds like a pretty secure, polyamorous dynamic to me.
Or secure and not against it because she is buying you a car with the movie monies.
At that point it’s a sugar mommy, not a wife.
SmuuthbraneThey feel with their hands and fingers mostly.
seitanicI sometimes wonder about that word “finger”. If fingers fing, then what is finging?
"They Call Them Fingers, But I Never See Them Fing" - Otto from The Simpsons
This is fine🔥🐶☕🔥Kid named Finger:
chemical_cutthroatI’d be curious to see the data of married Hollywood celebrities and how long their relationships last vs how many intimate scenes they have on film are. Of course, the data would be nearly worthless because humans are complex and there are millions of valid reasons why a relationship would end, but I’d like to see the numbers, anyway.
redcalciumAn actress here got divorced by her husband when he saw a sex scene in his wife’s new Netflix show. Apparently the actress didn’t tell her husband that the show would have some sex scenes and the husband got real mad.
What kind of Netflix shows are you watching?
DaveDaniel Tiger
I recently watched Wednesday again with a friend - great Netflix show without sex scenes. Good fun, great mystery and loveable cast of characters!
That catsuit tho
They gave Prince Wednesday his own spinoff? Wild.
The Netflix Marvel shows they made had some pretty useless sex scenes that look very weird in Disney’s catalogue there days… And god damn the violence is turned to eleven compared to current Marvel shows! That 11 minute one take fight in Daredevil season 3 is hot as fuck!
HolyhandgrenadeThis is why I have little faith in the new Disney Plus Daredevil series.
If it’s not brutal as fuck it won’t be the same
If it’s not brutal as fuck it won’t be the same
Why do you think they are unnecessary? Do you say the same thing about violence scenes? I enjoy sex scenes much more than violence scenes and feel like movies just keep increasing the latter and decreasing the former.
There’s this thing called “porn”, you might like it.
There’s martial arts competitions and Kung Foo too. What’s your point?
Are you illiterate? Guy wants more sex scenes in his entertainment - if he’s craving it so much, there’s an entire industry dedicated to this.
And if you’re craving action scenes then go watch MMA or something.
See how that argument works?
It doesn’t. MMA isn’t about action, it’s a martial arts competition.
As someone who too enjoys sex scenes in movies and doesn’t really get the hate for them - I really dislike (most) porn, and probably for the same reasons.
Sex and intimacy are a huge part of human relationships. Sex scenes in movies show (and not just tell) those relationships, where they stand, how they develop. There is no real intimacy in (most) porn. Porn doesn’t tell stories, it doesn’t show human relationships, it just depicts body parts smashing into each other basically. Very rarely a porn video is good enough to suspend my disbelief so I can imagine the important, the romantic part of it and forget that I’m watching either the product of an explorative industry or the fetish of a couple who film themselves because they like to have themselves watched by strangers. But to show me the dynamic between two fleshed out characters, how it changes over time, and what relevance sex has to them - porn can’t do that.
So your kink is romance. Get a boy/girlfriend.
Or I’ll just watch a good movie with a well made sex scene. Why does it bother you if others enjoy that?
Because those are so easy to get 🙄 smh
They are, if you’re not an unbearable incel.
Those scenes can usually be replaced with a black screen and the plot won’t be affected at all.
So Tom Cruise goes to dinner at his instructor’s house, black screen, there’s incredible tension afterwards between the two of them. Maybe she served bad shellfish and he’s upset? Who knows? Saying sex scenes are irrelevant to plots is just ridiculous. Stop typing online and Go back to picketimg schools about removing Shakespeare and Balzac and other lewd literature from their shelves.
They can still show Tom Cruise flirting and leading the girl to a room, just don’t show the actual fucking. It just makes it awkward when watching with friends and family.