This is probably the best written passage about grief I've ever read
 
https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/
My friend just died. I don't know what to do.

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I have read it many, many times
@JenMsft That was worth the read. And I'm almost an old guy now at 60ish, and I have experienced loss too.
@JenMsft the wave analogy is very accurate. OP seems like a wise old man