warpslideMore of them
JazzAlienI’ll never understand eye contact like wtf are you doing
A lot of non verbal communication happens through the eyes and surrounding muscles, it’s useful to understand people’s state of mind when they speak to also understand what they’re saying non verbally.
i’ve read that 90% of social communication is non-verbal. It’s awkward because you know you are being studied and not just the content of your words.
If it can reassure you, it’s not an active thing, our brain just sees signs and does the interpretation of how the person feels all by itself, only people who really studied non verbal language can push it further and start to analyse little things like pupils becoming larger even when lighting doesn’t change just because the person is interested in what you’re saying or people playing with their hair more than usual when attracted by the other person…
I had a communication class in university and the teacher was a psychologist specialized in non verbal communication, it was super interesting the few times she talked about it!
If it can reassure you, it’s not an active thing, our brain just sees signs and does the interpretation of how the person feels all by itself
This varies from person to person. Personally, I'm alexithymic. I had to study body language and facial expressions actively in order to stop being completely blind to other peoples' emotions/mental states. I solely relied on verbal communication to interpret peoples' intentions for the first 25 or so years of my life. Made a lot of shit really hard!
Doing much better these days though.
Oh yeah sorry, I should have specified that I talking about the majority of the population where it’s something that just happens without thinking about it unless you’re looking at very specific cues…
killeronthecornerIf the content is lies then that other 10% is real fucking useful
Except there is much more “truth” in nonverbal communication. It’s much easier to “lie” with words than it is with body language.
Most people don’t really even make an effort to control their presentation when communicating, except in the sense that they may try to control their emotions.
Wear sunglasses. It puts a stop to a LOT of problems.
Studied 90% subconsciously too. They don’t really know or understand they are judging you like that. Based on the FEELINGS of how their subconscious picked up your social clues, shapes an image of you that will last the rest of their lives because they can’t remember details.