One thing I need to do if I ever do get an invite to go check out Bluesky is to learn to get over myself more.

Any time I find out someone I know is still over at Twitter, I get this immediate visceral... judgmental reaction. Bitter, frustrated, exasperated. How could they go on supporting that site and its owner after the values they espoused? It stings.

And I fear that if and when I get an account at Bluesky, I'll encounter a list of names I haven't seen since I left Twitter, and will feel that... bitterness wash over me. I'll be the outsider coming in, all because I wouldn't stand by while Twitter became what it did.

I guess writing it down helps to nail down my exact anxiety a little bit. I think that I must just repeat to myself: everyone has a different story and everyone has different limits. Everyone finds something different in social media.

What won't change for me that I'll continue to at least try living up to my values.

@skyler Super relatable. Everyone has different things they care strongly about, different needs, and different limits for what they're willing to compromise on. It's just frustrating when it feels like they don't share your own convictions.

@skyler Very relatable, and I struggled with this for a time when I first moved away from Twitter. Was considering giving Bluesky a try, but I much prefer the natural communities that exist on Mastodon.

Give this a look, though: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/on-emotions-and-empathy/202308/the-emotional-labor-of-leaving-twitter

After reading that article, I was able to change my perspective on the matter. Actually felt pity for those who couldn't bring themselves to leave.

The Emotional Labor of Leaving Twitter

When a simple yes/no decision isn't simple at all.

Psychology Today
@skyler i feel this exactly. i can't help but judge people who stayed on twitter so long, because people spent so much effort broadcasting what was wrong, and why, to make sure nobody could pretend to be ignorant... bluesky is just proof that some people refused to hear it.
@tanaki "Be gay. Do crimes. Punch Nazis. but uwu i cant get off twitter its where all my friends are"