Daphne

My local pharmacy has a policy that they will only use the name on the insurance as the name on the prescriptions. Months ago, I was picking up my meds, and the woman behind the counter looked at what I was picking up, looked at the meds under my name in the computer, gave me a little smile, lowered her voice a bit, and told me "You know, if you want, I can put a different name in the system for you. I can't change the legal name because of policy, but I can add a chosen name in parenthesis."

Ever since then, she and I have always had a smile for each other, and when she's the person on when I pick up meds, we chat.

I've told the story of that kindness before, but last night something rather special happened. (1/2)

#Trans #Kindness

Aug 11, 2023 at 2:41amWeb
Show threadDaphneAug 11, 2023

Jump forward many months to yesterday. My new insurance card has arrived with my new (legal!) name on it. I had to pick up a prescription anyway, so I brought the new card with me, hoping that she would be the one working the counter - I really wanted her to be the one to make the change.

Luck was with me and she was working last night, so with considerable glee I showed her my new insurance card. She was delighted and promptly updated my name, properly this time, in the computer. I was laughing that the prescription I just picked up was the last one with my old name.

And then this happened: she asked me to hang on a minute, took the prescription to the back room for a minute, then brought it back to me. I looked down and discovered that she had reprinted the label and paperwork so the name would be Daphne, all so I could see it on a prescription right away. (2/2)

#Trans #Kindness

Show threadThe Chaotic Good 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🖖Aug 11, 2023
@SnarkWasABoojum there are good people. I once heard of a trans person who had their marker changed on documentation by a kind civil servant.
Show threadDaphne⭐ (v2.🦊)Aug 11, 2023
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Show threadFrankAug 11, 2023
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Turns out there are plenty of good, kind people out there. The minority of regressive assholes just tend to be louder than the rest of us
Show threadJamieGC 🏴 🏳️‍🌈 🖖Sep 29, 2023

@SnarkWasABoojum god bless pharmacists and pharmacy techs.

When I could still drive, I had a pharmacist in training tell me she was moving on another company and it was her last say. She didn't say where she was on the rainbow, but said she was part of lgbt community and smiled at me.

That pharmacy always made sure staff didn't misgender me when I arrived in person.

Show threadDaphneSep 29, 2023
@JamieGC I love that! It seems like such a little thing, but it's really not little at all. Pharmacy folks see everything, and an "I got you" is so wonderful.