I know I had ADHD in my childhood, diagnosed, medicated for a while, but was told I “grew out of it” in my teens. Not sure if that’s the right term, but I was indeed told I no longer have it.

Been doing some research, and thinking more and more about whether I have mild autism/asbergers. Does anyone know any reliable and discrete ways of figuring out if you might be on the spectrum or not? Something I can keep to myself at least for the time being? Or is asking my doctor the only way? Are specialists that specifically assess autism spectrum a thing? And is it possible to go to one of them without having to be referred by my primary care doctor?