A “best friend” that isn’t there for you doesn’t sound like a best friend. Either talk to her about it in a civil way and see if there’s something going on in her life you don’t know about it, or find someone else and build a friendship with them

Still, you should apologize. While it’s perfectly normal to lose your cool sometimes, I make it a point to never let it lie when it happens. I always make sure to apologize, if for no other reason than to make sure that there is never any doubt that I do care about someone. There’s always a risk of leaving a seed of “is that what they really think of me” if you did or said something you don’t mean.

Even if the words spoken were true, it’s still a good idea to express regret that you said them that way, which you clearly feel. Don’t keep that to yourself, let her know too, and talk about it.

There’s not enough here to even warrant an AITA, I think, whether you’ve gone “too far” is up to your friend.

I’ll add that friendship is never owed, while your frustration is understandable, being there for someone isn’t a matter of giving credit and then collecting debts. That said, if you do need someone, some people do have to be asked, to be there for you. And even then, a “no, I can’t help you” is still useful, in that it will let you direct your energy into finding what you need elsewhere.

It sounds like your over reactions have pushed her away. If I had a “friend” yell at me, I would stop picking up their calls as well.

Yes. You seem to not even be considering that she may be dealing with shit also. And without any context, there’s no way of knowing if she’s in the right. Which is what’s wrong with the entire concept of AITA.

Friendship is always such a interesting dynamic. One person’s best friend is the other person’s good acquaintance often. I have friends I talk to maybe annually. And it’s fine, and it takes a couple minutes to break the rust off and we are back to the old days like nothing. I have friends that I haven’t talked to in years that I know don’t need me but will answer texts or calls happily.

My best friend lives 4 minutes away. I stood up at his wedding and bailed him out from jail. I haven’t said a word to him in weeks and we wrok at the same place. He’s living his life, I’m living mine.

I will tell you one thing. I have never once in my life yelled at any degree of friend about how they are being a bad friend. And I’ve lived with multiple friends, and we’ve had multiple disagreements as roommates.

You seem super insecure. I’m not going to outright call you an asshole, but they aren’t. Spend some time working on yourself and your confidence

The world doesn’t owe you anything. If they’ve stopped picking up. Then that’s the kind of person they are and you don’t need to help them anymore.