A general purpose instance with no claimed “safe space” offering should only be burdened with instance-level defederation talk when another instance is behaving badly at a technical level, or when its admins are actively involved in, or not actively trying to prevent, spam, brigading, repeat copyright infringement, and stuff like that.

Bad thoughts expressed in text form by individual users shouldn’t be ground for such talk, and to create a foray over such an inactive instance is quite self-indulging.

If anything, maybe a couple of previous defederation decisions were taken in haste, and should be reconsidered!

If you’re looking for a “safe” instance, there are a couple that should suit you. One of them was already recommended to you.