== HOW TO SET UP ON THE DECENTRALISED FEDERATED SERVICE "E-MAIL" IN 2023 ==

1. your problem is Google, MS and Yahoo.
2. SMTP over SSL *only*.
3. SPF, DMARC, DKIM
4. they don't like your IP or your face or can't be bothered or something and you have weeks of supplication hoping there's a human there
5. give up and outsource it

as a sysadmin, I always advise going straight to step 5

anyone using "e-mail" as an example of a successfully decentralised federated service in 2023 does not know what they're talking about and should be ignored

stop doing this

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EDIT: if you're a fatuous dipshit, read the replies before you answer. or better, don't.

@davidgerard pretty much gave up on it professionally in 2013. After more than a decade of massaging milter/sendmail or convincing an exchange server to unfuck its information store I tapped out
@davidgerard and don't get me started on domino/notes
@oxyhyxo @davidgerard
Notes was absolutely great in 1997-9 when my team only had occasional access when travelling around Europe. The asynch just worked.
Wouldn't use it now though...
@AlisonW @oxyhyxo i refuse to believe that Notes was at any point ever great. it did inspire me to write this though https://en.uncyclopedia.co/wiki/Lotus_Notes
Lotus Notes

Uncyclopedia
@davidgerard @oxyhyxo
Yeah, well, we did need a permanent member of staff just to manage the notes install for us. We had a niche usecase which meant it was a suitable product, I doubt it was for others.