It might be the HDMI cake that limits the refresh rate, or if the Mac you are using doesn’t have a hdmi port it might be the adapter that is causing the limit. The specs for the monitor say it should go up to 60hz at 4K

same exact setup pushes 4k 60hz to any Dell in the office.

Damn, just do sudo rm -rf / and roll back to Linux.

my laptop is in RMA so im stuck with this for a bit more (and i tried using linux on it but it sucks)

You sound like a super happy person, I’m sure people love spending time with you