Every "men and masculinity are in crisis" story basically calls men dweebs and losers for letting women and other people have rights and tells them they better start getting fascist if they want to be in the Cool Guys club.

@gwynnion
This is such a good way of putting it.

It's like "we notice that men aren't up to the arbitrary bar we've set for masculinity", and instead of critiquing the bar for being arbitary, they critique the men for not meeting it. It's ridiculous.

@passenger Yeah. There's a lot to be said about the way masculinity is harshly policed amongst men (and even more so non-conforming AMAB people) with an eye to maintaining a misogynist, etc. social order. Basically: "Patriarchy cannot fail, it can only be failed."