@fishidwardrobe @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic adding my two cents here. passive aggressive communication shows up also where privilege differences or exclusion are, where you can't afford to be clear or blunt. ask any minority and/or any non cis white male person, or domestic violence target (examples list ongoing forever) if they always had the chance to speak freely and without consequences. I am not defending it, it is just that commenting on that form of communication needs a lot of differentiation, context and privilege checking here.