@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic Nothing wrong with passive aggression. I should be hitting people with an axe?

Passive aggression turns up in places where you can't resist otherwise, like the army. Or feel you can't. If that's your only outlet, it's better than nowt.

@fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic

i am referring to communication styles, not physical aggression.

@fishidwardrobe @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic absolutely! it's happening to me right now as it is for you :) I don't understand you at all and you don't understand me at all.

i am speaking about people who use edgy and passive aggressive statements in order to troll and to sound funny to onlookers. they do not say what they really mean, but try to go around in circles to prove a point without being direct. i am saying that instead of this that people should simply say whatever they want to say. it isn't funny or cool to not communicate clearly. of course, some autistics can understand this type of "humor" and comments and understand that someone is trying to push them around, but most of us don't get it and just feel confused and bad about it.

you seem to be referring to when people use words to describe their physical anger and don't act out on it. is that right?

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic I see the problem, I think. That's not passive aggression. That's something else.

Passive aggression isn't trying to be funny. It's a way of complying with a demand, perhaps poorly, while still asserting a small measure of control. For example:

"I need you to restack all these boxes."

"Absolutely! Right away! I'm sure I didn't have anything else useful to do anyway!"

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive-aggressive_behavior