Don’t be edgy.
Edgy is being passive-aggressive.
Being passive-aggressive is an NT communication style, not an autistic one.
Some autistic people internalize this as part of their masks.
If you want to be passive-aggressive, just be “aggressive” and say what you want. Be you. Don’t sugar coat.
@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic
not everybody has that choice. example, people with BPD. just as an example many other cases where edgy is not a choice. and it is OK to have BPD. I don't think it is allistic versus autistic, and edgy is transversal to both. that affirmation of yours makes me slightly uncomfortable because of the absolute in it, specially if you work as a coach, but let's talk and learn all from this.
edit: this felt absolutely (pun intended) as click bait, optionally with rage bait, to me. like the "other network".
@veroalgoz @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic
i was not speaking in absolutes and nothing I speak about is an absolute. everything "depends". I am speaking generally.
I did not mean it as click bait or rage bait. I meant it as I meet people everyday who are super upset and dysregulated by edgy comments on this and other platforms in the interest of getting clicks.
@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic
There is one thing that confuses me IRL as well as here on fedi:
(Apparently?) different concepts of the effective range of a statement.
I normally add several prefixes or define the focus of something I say.
Now, sometimes I simplify things, e.g. I might say "I hate plants because they give me allergies".
There seem to be people who take this as a statement with rather limited effect (it's an emotion, there is a sort of causality implied...).
Others... seem to receive it as a "global"/"absolute" statement (and might answer with "but without plants, you couldn't breathe" or something).
This seems to lead to a lot of misunderstandings. Not just between me and others, but also between others. And I wonder about the underlying cause.
Does the esteemed community have any thoughts on that?
Matthew | The Autistic Coach
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