AITA for expectinf my partner to spend time with me instead of playing DND?

https://lemmy.world/post/1208322

AITA for expectinf my partner to spend time with me instead of playing DND? - Lemmy.world

I (29f) have been with my partner (33m) for 2 years, living together 1 year. I have an issue with the amount of time he plays dungeons and dragons, compared to how much time we spend together. For context; Monday - we both work. He finishes at 4/5, I get home just after 6. 7pm he goes to play DND. Tuesday - I get home just after 6 and we have his daughter. Wednesday - same as Tuesday. Thursday - same as Monday, 7pm he goes to play DND. Friday - both tend to have the evening off, but he usually has to work. Weekends - I’m free (unless I agree to work overtime on Saturday which is rare), he used to work all weekend. Now however, on a Saturday he works 9 or 10am-12pm. Has a 6 hour break, then goes back to work at 6pm until they close (works in a restaurant). Here’s the problem, I got excited thinking we can actually spend time together in this 6 hour window. We rarely get to spend time together (without his daughter), so it’s nice we now have the opportunity to. However, he’s decided he’s going to play more DND during this 6 hour window. I’m so sick of coming second to DND, I have no issue with the game itself, just the fact he’s so quick to ditch me for it. I love that he has his own hobbies, but we’re rarely intimate and never spend time together. I just feel like roommates at this point. AITA?

So I don’t have enough info to judge here but I have a few questions.

  • What happens on Sundays? You were detailed about every other day.
  • Is it possible on Saturdays between a split shift he doesn’t want to take on any activities besides staying in? I wouldn’t want to work between shifts
  • Have you talked to him about how you feel and that you’d like more 1:1 time together?
  • Foes he have commitments to sessions with other people on Monday and Thursday?

Obviously Sunday hasn’t been mentioned but it sounds like you guys get no personal time together for 6 days a week which can’t feel that great. Maybe you could talk to him about removing one of the Monday or Thursday evenings from his schedule?

Remember to use I statements when talking and discuss how it makes you feel. He’s entitled to his hobbies but if you are partners you guys need to spend quality time with each other too.

Yeah, even I found it odd that OP went into detail about what happens on everyday except Sunday..