I’ve fallen into a deep gaming rut lately. What game(s) helped “get you back into” gaming and rediscover the magic of video games?

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I’ve fallen into a deep gaming rut lately. What helped “get you back into” gaming and rediscover the magic of video games? - Beehaw

I, like many gamers, grew up playing Pokémon Red and Nintendo 64 and was obsessed with Nintendo products. I graduated to a PS2 and PS3 and became super into Metal Gear Solid and Call of Duty and Fallout. Also spent a ton of time with the Guitar Hero series. I loved the escape gaming brought me and it genuinely helped me relax. Fast forward a few years and I hadn’t really played a video game between the years of like 2011-2017. College, moving cross country and busyness of life kept me from gaming. Finally in 2017, I bought a Switch and Breath of the Wild and felt the same magical feeling I remember when I first started playing Ocarina of Time, or the first time I booted up Metroid Prime, or Metal Gear Solid 4. I started to get into online gaming and made a lot of friends. I played my Switch frequently for a few years. During the beginning of COVID lockdowns, I turned more to reading than gaming and my Switch gathered lots of dust. I ultimately ended up buying an Xbox Series S when it was announced because I’d never owned an Xbox system and Game Pass really intrigued me. I went through a phase of being very into Destiny 2, Halo, Gears of War, Forza Horizon…a bunch of games I had never played before. Then, a divorce, a new job change, another cross country move brought new levels of stress to my life. I lacked an attention span strong enough to focus on a video game. FPS’s seemed boring, online games couldn’t keep my attention long enough to get through a match, and eventually I’d just leave a game on the pause menu while I messed around mindlessly on my phone. Gaming wasn’t even a way for me to decompress anymore, it seemed more like a chore I was procrastinating—which sucks. I’ve fallen deeper into this lately, as more life changes have come along. I work a stressful job with long hours. I’m now a stepparent to two young boys. The little free time I have I spend walking the dog, reading, and trying to just let my mind settle and decompress. Let alone, if I try to turn the Xbox on or have the Switch on my lap, it turns into a whole event where the kids want to sit and watch and participate and ask tons of questions (which is fine, but sometimes I just want to do something by myself for me!) I miss the time of my youth where gaming was a relief and a release for me. I miss how I felt when I first got a Switch and felt so excited and so nostalgic and reinvigorated and looked forward to playing a game! Now…I feel like I can’t even consider myself a gamer. So. That’s a long winded way to ask if anyone else has gone through similar ruts, or fallen away from gaming, and if so, what games helped you get that spark back? What games brought you back to that nostalgic feeling you had when you first got into gaming? What games help you decompress after a long day? What games have you recently become obsessed with in such a way that you look forward to playing them and are always thinking about them? I want to get back into gaming. I want to feel the magic again.

@Evolone I went back to a #WoW 3.3.5a private server I used to play on when I was young and couldn't afford the monthly fee. The community over there is super laid back because everyone knows there will never be new content. I'm really enjoying my time there, despite only having a few hours per week to spare.

So, go back to your roots. Play a game you used to play a lot.

Have you considered playing a shorter singleplayer game? I find I get fatigued by how long some games can go on for whether it's multiplayer like The Elder Scrolls Online or a sandbox game like Red Dead Redemption.

Maybe you could try something like GRIS? It's a relaxing game with a neat art style that that only takes about 3 hours to beat.

I mentioned Gris in my comment too! I'm in love with that game and second your recommendation.

Have you considered playing a shorter singleplayer game?

this is my trick as well. I use an app called Depressurizer to sort my steam library by both review score and length simultaneously and grab one of the higher rated <8 hour games I haven't played yet, then when I finish it, I find that my slump typically ends and I can pick up a longer game again.

Worth mentioning these days I play precisely zero multiplayer games (because i've got a toddler so i need to be able to pause whatever I'm playing)

I have a very similar relationship with gaming. A similar break for college and a similar resurgence with BotW followed by a similar falling out because of kids haha.

I’ll be honest, it doesn’t feel the same anymore. I don’t think it ever wil again. But I’ll share the things that have come close to getting that feeling back.

  • Online game night with friends - this puts me mentally back in the 90’s staying up late and gaming with friends. It’s more about the company and conversations than the game itself. I try to do this at least once a week.

  • Gaming with my son - he’s 6 and we’ve been able to find a ton of games we love playing together, most notably Nintendo games. He loves all things Mario. We also run through games like Hot Wheels Unleashed, Luigi’s Mansion 3, Lego 2K Drive. Anything with a kid friendly co-op campaign has been fun.

  • Allowing yourself to mentally move on from games once you’re not having fun - I used to have this issue with a mental backlog or feel badly for buying a game and then not beating it. Not sure if you have the same issue. But lately I’ve tried not to put too much pressure on myself to beat a game. If I’m not having fun I move on. Life is too short and game time is too precious to waste it on a game I’m not loving.

  • Hope this helps. Like I said, I don’t think it’ll ever feel the same, but this has helped it come close for me.

    What did/do you play games for? Think about the moments you enjoyed the most and why. Just to name a few motivations: are you looking to get a sense of improvement and complete challenges, are you looking to live a fantasy, exploration, get a story via a unique medium, flex creativity or be a part of a community. I find myself having different reasons to want to play depending on my mood.

    Once you find your reason, you can start searching for what satisfies that. I strongly suggest you avoid triple a titles and focus mainly on indie.

    Try some chill single player games, ones that focus on a great story with no real difficulty. That helped a lot for me when I had a similar feeling.

    Firewatch, the Life us Strange games, Road 96, Unravel, Superliminal to name a few.

    I feel you man. Are you sure you’re nostalgic about gaming itself and not about a time when you were carefree? Maybe you just need to find back your balance. I’m an anxious person and the worst episode I’ve had lasted roughly a year. Sick leave and everything. No interest for gaming even longer than that. Worked on myself, picked up the pieces and the will to game came back slowly but surely. What I’m saying is maybe you need some healing before the next adventure?

    Have you played Outer Wilds by chance? I agree with many that it's probably one of the best games ever made, and I can't think of any game that better encapsulates what games should be capable of. It captures the magical potential of exploration and discovery like nothing else I've ever played. So many cool ideas waiting for you to figure out, and the process is just so fun.

    Along those lines, I've just been growing fonder of smaller, indie-style games, which had never been my preference before now. Games like Gris, Little Nightmares, Hades (if you consider that "smaller"), Deliver Us the Moon have left a really positive impression. Many of them are imperfect, but I feel like there's a lot of love tangible in those experiences. Maybe I'm just imagining that, but they lack the bloat that has disillusioned me with a lot of the bigger games lately, and they feel more purposeful in general.

    If you haven't, look through some lists of best indie games and see if anything jumps out at ya.

    There are moments in Outer Wilds that left me grinning like a child. It hits at that same time of wonder I felt playing ocarina of time when I was very young
    Exactly! There were other times that I don't want to mention here cause I don't know how to hide spoilers, where my fully adult mind too was thrilled by some of the revelations.
    My girlfriend got me to play Outer Wilds and the first thing I did was try to fly into the sun and she was just staring at me like “why are you like this” while I was grinning like mad.
    For me it was Crusader Kings 2. I started playing it after CK3 came out. It was free and seemed interesting, and it took me a while to get used to such a game, but it was fun when I did get used to it all. It's even more fun with all the DLCs and there's plenty of mods to try out. I usually play a single campaign for about an hour or two a day over a week or more which helps me de-stress. It might not be the answer you're looking for, but maybe you can try some games like it where you don't need to be active all the time, or where you can just turn your mind off and kill a few hours.
    I wouldn't recommend this with the sole reason being to get back into gaming. I started taking THC gummies and it is like being a kid again playing video games.
    If weed didn't give me anxiety I would only play high. I remember having a blast everytime I played before quitting, especially with games like BOTW or Yakuza where, despite being very different games, you get to really immerse in the world – which is something that I don't usually do or look for in games, but I will never forget how emotional I got while playing BOTW and I noticed how different the twin mountains (or whatever they're called in English) were if you traveled from above or below.
    Haha exact opposite experience here. I started taking edibles and now I'd rather just scroll tiktok than commit to playing a game or watching a show

    I play a lot less cause of depression and isolation so games I mainly play on my own are simple enough for me to play when my mind is fried and that I can quickly play little and come back no problem like do a level of Miitopia or like 1 or 2 races in Mario Kart.

    I also feel like I need to get away from gaming right now but sadly I am stuck with lack of support from family and the mental health system.

    To answer your question what games brought back i don't really have that but some games that grabbed onto me recent years are usually odd and silly games like Miitopia(has a demo on switch(Nintendo exclusive)), Bug Fables, Bugsnax, Cat Quest 2(has a demo on switch), What the Golf, Wandersong.

    I have went through a similiar phase a few years ago after starting university and moving to a different city. A few years later I had the opportunity to get me some nice computer for very little money which brought me back into gaming but I honestly dont remember which game I played first.
    If you’re up for a challenge and an adventure my recommendation would be Elden Ring. It gave me that exact feeling you’re describing.

    Perhaps emulation might get you interested. Replay the games of your childhood. Emulation also offers save States so you can immediately save or reload without silly save point mechanics, though you can stick to that if you want. This would let you basically get 10 minutes in here or there.

    Get yourself an anbernic rg351or other models, or a steam deck. Anbernic's models can emulate generally up to ps1 and sometimes n64 or psp. I played through several childhood games on my 351m. Steam deck can emulate most things, namely ps2 ps3 360 and switch, but I've only tried psp thus far.

    Check out the System Shock remake if you have a gaming PC. I recommend Dying Light as well; the parkour traversal and zombie physics are unmatched.

    'Return of the Obra Dinn' is another favorite of mine.

    Games that hold your hand and provide waypoints to every objective (i.e. built-in walkthrough syndrome) strip the joy for me personally.

    Return of the Obra Dinn on Steam

    Lost at sea 1803 ~ The good ship Obra Dinn.

    I was also in a lull for a while, I don't remember exactly why I stopped, but someone recommended hypnospace outlaw to me because it had a heavy focus on exploration and following clues, and I gotta say it was a good recommendation. Something about how earnestly and lovingly it represented the turn of the millennium internet and the transition from web 1.0 to 2.0 really spoke to me, it was like digging through a time capsule, almost.

    If you’re burnt out on games, more games won’t solve that and will just make it worse

    Go explore some other hobbies for a bit

    Hobbies like boobmodding skyrim.
    Modding skyrim is usually 99 % setting up the mods and 1 % gaming anyways, if I'm being generous.

    This is a great point. Pursue other interests for the time being; don't necessarily stop gaming altogether though. I had a few gaming ruts in my life and around the same time I was in grad school.

    Something a professor had said to the class about writing a thesis paper can apply to many things in life: "When you find yourself enjoying what you are doing, stop for the day while you are still enjoying it because you'll be excited to get back to it next time. If you stop working on something when you're forcing yourself to do it, you'll have a much harder time being motivated to continue."

    It's not very profound, but I related it to the gaming rut I was in at the time but it helped me bounce back.

    And put health first. I know a good chunk of the time I spend browsing my Steam library and thinking "a thousand channels and nothing's on," is me being exhausted in disguise.

    The best thing to do when gaming loses its magic is far and away to just stop gaming and find new ways to rest and wind down.

    I like to tell people I have three pillars of media - books, tv/movies, games. I’m always consuming all three, but when I feel a bit burned out on one type, I just ignore it for a bit.

    Yep same, I have a list I keep of books/movies/tv/games I'm interested in. If I start watching a show and binge it for a bit, I'll take a break and read a few chapters of a book, then maybe play a game.

    Variety is the spice of life, as they say

    Gasph How dare you tell someone to touch grass?
    In times like those, I enjoy a 2D retro-style indie platformer or metroidvania. There are so many available, they're usually cheap yet made with heart, and they scratch the itch to recapture a simpler era.

    I've gotten back into gaming lately, and the two biggest things (for me) were focusing on fixed length single player games and getting a steam deck.

    It seems like every new game these days is a live service game or an open world, but playing through some focused, shorter, more straightforward games has been great for recapturing a love of games. When I was younger I preferred games that gave a lot of hours of gameplay for the money invested, but these days I have plenty of money and a shortage on time, so shorter games are king.

    Second, I bought a steam deck. I only use it for games, I don't share it with my kids/wife/anyone, and it has a sleep function that lets me stop instantly in the middle of a game when needed and start back from that exact moment when I have time again. One of the biggest issues that was keeping me from playing games was feeling like I didn't have enough time or didn't know how much time I had. I wouldn't want to start a game unless I knew I was going to have time for a good play session. With the steam deck it doesn't matter if I only have 5 minutes, I can jump straight back into playing where I was last and quit the second I need to. It's turned lots of small time where I was scrolling reddit/etc into time where I'm actually making progress on a game I want to play, and I've found that to be more satisfying. Small play sessions add up, if you're able to frequently hop in and play a little bit you'll quickly find yourself playing through games again.

    What helped me after a long period of not gaming was getting a Steam Deck. I already had access to all my PC games, but now I could take them anywhere with me. Elden Ring is nice, but cuddled up in bed next to my dogs just before I go to sleep? It's like nothing else. And all the modding you can do to it too, oh my god. You'd have access to all the retro games you want, and more.
    @TabbyCat Agreed, I have enough on my Steam Deck to last me a decade but there are too many new, great games coming out to just play my comfy retro games.

    Lots of great recommendations here. For me, I've definitely found that shorter and more casual games have really helped me get back into it. Challenging single player games or competitive multiplayer games can just seem like too much for me after a stressful day or when I'm in a mood.

    I have fun with idle games, automation games, visual novels, and small indie games. I find after playing one of those for a bit I feel ready to tackle something more challenging.

    small indie games

    Same here, they're like a palate cleanser, and they fit a busier schedule better than a 200+ hour open-world immersive experience. There's a place for each, but I really have become fond of pleasant little indie games.

    Trying new genres and emulating old games is what I do. I picked up Fallen London lately during my down time and I'm emulating some PS1 RPGs I never beat growing up.

    I think the reality is, we won't ever be able to capture the nostalgia. Sometimes I just don't have the brain for a story, or the energy for skill checks, and sometimes I just can't game at all. I try to not pressure myself too much during the dips in interest, it seems to make me more depressed.

    Allowing myself to float from game to game as my mood wills it has been important to not losing my ability to play to depression and exhaustion.

    I definitely don't play the same games the same way I did before, but there is a lot of me that's changed over the years!

    Sounds like you have a lot on your plate and smaller gaming sessions might be what you are looking for.
    I usually get an hour or so a day to play and I've been having a blast with Deep Rock Galactic. The game is a buy once and play with the only monetization being cosmetic DLC but I believe it is FREE on Game pass (I think); $30 on Steam but on sale for less than $10 for the next week.

    It is an horde based first person shooter with 4 classes that feel unique, balanced, and bring their own strengths and tools to help out each mission. Locations are all procedurally generated, which means that you can select the same mission in the same area and it will be a new layout everytime, and it's done well so you won't get screwed over my stuff morphing into the terrain or areas blocked off cause the cave generated all screwy.

    Mission difficulty can be customized to suit your wants, ranging from super chill and very few enemies, to "OH GOD THERE ARE SO MANY ENEMIES AND WHY ARE THEY SO FAST?!". I have been known to play the hardest difficulty one mission, then crank it down to the easiest to finish out a quick mission before bed just to relax a bit.

    You can play solo or with a group of 3 other people but playing with others is the way to go, as you get to see how all of the classes interact and help each other, plus the community has actually been wonderful; out of the hundreds of lobbies I have been in, I have had maybe 3 annoying people total. I also never use my headset for talking (sleeping kids and whatnot) but in game text chat is lively and most of your communication can be done through the "ping" system where you point your reticle at something (enemy, item, player, etc) and call it out for everyone to see. Also there is a button specifically to shout "Rock and Stone!" Which will be around 90% of what you need and will use when communicating with teammates, lol.

    Unlike some other games that pressure you to keep playing to "progress your character/battle pass" I feel no urgency with this game. While there is a battle pass style system, it is all cosmetic, FREE, and usually last a few months at a time (like 6-8). If you happen to miss something from a current or previous season, they are still in game and can be found naturally through gameplay by finding "lost crates/gear" during your mission.

    All in all I recommend this game to anyone who is comfortable with a FPS. Developers are friendly, community is great, game is fun and forgiving. I feel that, in a worst case scenario, it's fun for a bit and you pick up something else. Hope you find what you are looking for, Rock and Stone!

    I also found smaller gaming sessions to be a big help in my enjoyment. I got a Steamdeck when it released and switched to playing smaller indie games. It allowed me to pick up and play with a lot less setup time or time to overthink about what I actually want to play. I also found that shorter games helped a ton in making me feel like I’m accomplishing more in less time. My biggest burden was starting larger games that required sitting at my PC so by the time I was actually in them I already decided I wasn’t too interested. If I managed to play the game by the time I was halfway through the game something else caught my attention and it was tough to return to the original game.
    I actually just downloaded this on Game Pass - excited to try it out. Your description and recommendation is great!

    During the lockdowns my son was born. What's really rekindled my love for gaming was not a particular game, but how I gamed. Getting a Steam Deck totally changed things for me and made it really convenient to access my gaming library.

    The first thing I did with it was not actually play new titles but visit my backlog of older JRPG games that I had missed out on (specifically the Trails series).

    Gaming at my desk where I worked wasn't the same as gaming on the couch or next to my son while he was sleeping. Sounds silly but it's made it much more enjoyable!

    I love my steam deck and also had a son during the pandemic, but funny enough it didn't really have that effect on me. I can't really game when he's awake because he's too interested in touching the buttons/screen himself, and if he's asleep, I can just play something on my PS5 or Xbox on the couch. I do use my steam deck a lot when he's taking a car nap or whenever my wife and I want to watch a TV show together (but not the kind of show that demands full attention)

    I don't play games while my son is awake (ever) because why wouldn't I want to spend time with him 🐥. I usually get to sneak in my hour or two while he's asleep at night. My PC is in the den so I enjoy sitting next to him in bed while to play games for a bit.

    I am looking forward to when he's old enough to start with retro games like the original Mario Bros!

    Yeah, basically same here. He's almost 2, so we're starting to introduce some high quality mobile stuff like pokpok and sago, and he's tried some simpler controller games (like the latest paw patrol one on game pass) but he can't really grasp the concept of how the controller controls the character on screen (even though he's great at holding the controller)
    Same. A steam deck is what helped me get back into games. Now I can play games 5 minutes at a time between work and quickly suspend/resume instead of committing to an hour long gaming schedule.
    I started playing short games only (ideally 20, max 40 hours), mainly indie games. They're tighter and usually go straight to the point. They often have one good idea and reiterate on it until they said all they had to say and don't overstay their welcome. Also, replaying old games is always nice. I've replayed OG Fallout recently and had a blast, currently replaying New Vegas (which goes against my short games rule, but I also know it well enough to not waste time doing things).

    I don't know your personal tastes, but if I had to recommend one recent game to help anyone break a rut, it would be Hi-Fi Rush.

    Too many games, especially those in the AAA space, are more focused on being bloated engagement treadmills over simply being fun, concise experiences. I'd recommend seeking out shorter, offline games that don't rely on RPG elements. It's also ok to just take a break from gaming altogether.

    I actually just downloaded this on Game Pass. Looking forward to it!

    I want to get back into gaming. I want to feel the magic again.

    this amuses me because it sounds like something a drug addict would say. you have that initial magic and then over time you're not using to feel the magic but just not to feel sick

    my advice, OP? stop playing video games if you're not getting enjoyment out of it. it's your brain trying to tell you something. do something else with your time and go back to gaming in the future and it will be fun again.

    @tikitaki @Evolone have you ever played Subnautica?
    yes i loved that game
    Like many before me said, explore other interests. Then when you get back to gaming try moving out of your comfort zone. If roaming on open worlds has been your thing for years try switching to a neighboring genre such as battle royale or coop monster bashing for instance, or even try switching to a totally different genre like puzzles or fps. Challenge yourself to new habits and gameplays, and do not hesitate moving on to another genre if it's just not your thing.

    This does sound like something beyond gaming; you do have a lot on your plate like you said.

    At different points in my life my gaming time also changed, depending on what my priorities are.

    Eventually the want to game comes back and I'll spend a weekend or two on something fun.

    It does sound like you're burnt out in general, and I'm not sure more gaming might help. I think the first thing to do is to find a way to establish some "me" time, like a solid block of an hour or two where you can do something for yourself. Doesn't have to be gaming, but it has to be for you. Once you can get that going you can work gaming into it, or some other hobby.

    Yes, I definitely need to work on getting more "me" time. I am just...so exhausted. All the time.

    The only time I seem to have for myself is in the early mornings when I go to the gym. Or when I'm commuting to work. Or when I'm walking the dog. All other times I am either working, or with family at home and constantly being pulled in different directions. It is a lot, and it is hard to find the balance that I think my body and mind need right now.

    Man, I sympathise, that's really asking for burn out.

    With the exception of gym times in the morning, none of the other times sound like "me" time, more like, "not getting disturbed" time. You'll have to find a way to carve that time out yourself. Talk to the family, I hope you'll find a way to get it!

    Two words, Steam Deck!

    This amazing device has awakened something within me, rekindling my passion for games in a way that I haven't felt in decades. After 23 years, and after restarting and attempting to play through it countless times, I'm finally on a solid trajectory to finish the original Deus Ex for the first time!

    I've found, at least in myself and friends, burnout comes from playing one game or one type of game, and getting bored with that specifically. You need to find something new, but I can't really give any suggestions since that's entirely subjective.

    I fell off gaming for a while because my job got crazy. The Switch and specifically Breath of the Wild pulled me back in. Then I honed in on Monster Hunter World in particular for a long time and kinda burnt out because a different job got very demanding of my time, and it wasn't even a change of game, but just getting a better internet connection so I could actually participate in multiplayer that pulled me out of the rut.

    Keep it varied and it'll stay interesting. A buddy of mine just tried to swear off all veeja because he declared himself an addict. He's not an addict, he just burned out after playing nothing but Elden Ring for a solid year. He took a break for about a month and now he's right back on ER with renewed passion.

    There are plenty of indie games which offer new and unique experiences which aren't just "shooter" or "online shooter". My recommendations would be Celeste, a platformer about a girl who climbs a mountain, and Hollow Knight, a metroidvania set in a dying kingdom, but there are plenty of other great ones as well.

    If you're depressed, sometimes you lose interest in your hobbies. You might want to look into seeing someone.

    I will say, you seem a bit worried about no longer considering yourself a gamer, like this burnout has led to a crisis of identity. You are MORE than your hobbies. Gamer is a temporary state based on what you are doing. It is okay not to be one. You're still you.

    Thank you for this comment. I am working on myself and trying to see what I can do to help me get through this depression I've been experiencing.

    I appreciate you reminding me that I am not defined by just my hobbies (or my work, or my failures, or whatever). I am me, and that is perfectly alright.