Amy Hupe

Don’t really feel comfortable putting this out to 10k followers on Twitter but christ almighty I’m at rock bottom right now.
Separated from my husband back in Jan and it just feels like life has dealt me blow after blow ever since. I’m so tired and so worn down and low.

When is it going to get easier? I’m genuinely asking.

Sorry this is so incredibly self-indulgent, but any words of wisdom would be so welcome right now.

Jun 20, 2023 at 7:28pmWeb
Show threadJack FranklinJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I cannot offer wisdom but sending you lots of ❤️❤️
Show threadAmy HupeJun 20, 2023
@jackf thanks Jack ♥️ you’re a real one
Show threadMike-麥-Mai-v1.618 😎Jun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe sending hugs
Show threadEthan MarcotteJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe Oh Amy, I’m so sorry 💜 This isn’t self-indulgent in the least; it all sounds just incredibly hard. I hope you’re able to find the rest and support you need, and I’m sending every supportive thought your way.
Show threadAmy HupeJun 20, 2023
@beep thanks Ethan ♥️
Show threadEthan MarcotteJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe of course, amy ❤️ if there’s anything a distant-but-supportive industry colleague can do for you, say the word.
Show threadgarrettcJun 20, 2023

@Amy_Hupe Sorry you’re going through this.

At times like these (not that I’ve experienced anything comparable, but I have days) I remember a thing that the film critic Mark Kermode has said on his show: “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end”.

And I don’t know if it helps, but from spending an evening hanging out with you, you’re an awesome person. You can do this. And if you ever want to shout into a void, DM me. Like I said, I’ve had days. 💕

Show threadAmy HupeJun 20, 2023

@garrettc oh that’s so funny, my Dad always quotes that at me. It is comforting :)

Thanks Garrett that’s really kind. You’re awesome too. Dirt soup was a beacon of lols in the abyss.

Show threadgarrettcJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe Oh fuck, I had completely forgotten about dirt soup! It had been an evening 😂
Show threadFJ!!Jun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe few months from now you'll notice the grief has gotten more familiar and that makes it easier. The blows feel like harder blows than they would have been because your resilience got shot by the separation.
Show threadAmy HupeJun 20, 2023
@fj thanks FJ. I hope so. Definitely true about the resilience thing - I have none.
Show threadFJ!!Jun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe It is so hard. All I can do in that state is hunker down with friends.
Show threadZeno ✨Jun 20, 2023

@Amy_Hupe I’m so sorry to hear that Amy 🫂

I’ll share the words that have always provided me solace when I needed it: This too shall pass. It *will* get better.

Show threadEricJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I know we don't know each other too well, but just wanted to express solidarity. I am not sure I have advice here, that's a heavy load even without everything else going on. I hope you can be kind to yourself.
Show threadSophieJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I’m so sorry, sending lots of love xx
Show threadMatt SteinJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I’m sorry. You’re a braver soul than I for being open about it. When I’m at my lowest it’s usually laughter that steadies the ship. Not sure what it is for you, but I hope you find it. ❤️
Show threadThomas RigbyJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe The only advice I can offer is to take small steps slowly, if possible. Sending well wishes 🩵
Show threadLee PorteJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe sending hugs. Take some time to do some of the things you used to enjoy doing and haven't had the time to do.
Show threadMatt WilcoxJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I'm so sorry. It sucks, and being stuck in that state sucks too. Just remember; it's temporary. It may be now, it may be a bunch of things, but it's also all temporary.
Show threadSara Joy Jun 20, 2023

@Amy_Hupe
It's not self indulgent, we need society and people and lot of us do much of that online now.

If you haven't already, please give yourself grace to feel all the emotions you need to feel. Or alternatively grace to forgive yourself for being numb. All your reactions are valid especially when you've been through a lot.

When I was at my lowest I finally sought a therapist (I get it's not always easy to find one that's also a good fit), mine did ACT which I found really helpful.

Show threaddötcödeJun 20, 2023

@Amy_Hupe this is a fantastic book on the subject which provides an answer, not so much on the "when" (because there is no right answer to that), but rather the "how" ...

Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey https://amzn.eu/d/edqeGzW

Amazon.co.uk

Show threadJoe LanmanJun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe Sorry Amy :( life just really sucks sometimes/often
Show threadDave 🧱 Jun 20, 2023
@Amy_Hupe so sorry this year is giving you such a tough time. Always here if you need anything 💜
Show threadDan V PetersonJun 21, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I’m so sorry Amy. Going through a pretty rough patch myself and the only wisdom I have is the overly trite bit of taking it one day at a time and knowing that it will get better if we just keep pushing forward. From what little bit I know of you you seem like an incredibly worthwhile person with a lot to offer both yourself and the world, and a lot of us are glad you’re here.
Show threadGuyJun 21, 2023
@Amy_Hupe No words of wisdom unfortunately. It really sucks. But I hope you know you have people around you who love you and are there to listen and support.
Show threadStephen Bannasch (316 ppm)Jun 21, 2023
@Amy_Hupe when I feel really low and situations big and little really suck sometimes I’m able to take a breath and make next moment a little bit better. One of ways I’ve often done this in the past is helping someone else smile or feel better. The last few years with increased social isolation has made these ephemeral bits of domestic magic harder to come by. Here’s a picture of Saffron I grew last fall … not really practical, just for joy.
Show threadFull Metal ArchaeopteryxJan 1
@stepheneb
Wow, I've never seen a saffron flower before
@Amy_Hupe
Show threadStephen Bannasch (316 ppm)Jan 1

@DelilahTech

I’ve posted a bunch of fun Saffron photos, pretty sure they are all tagged with #Saffron. Might be cheerful.

I grow them because they are beautiful, the bumbleebees really like them, and the red threads are a fun flavoring. I’ve also given away a bunch of the corms to other folks to grow and that also seems to involve lots of smiles.

Show threadTrent WaltonJun 21, 2023
@Amy_Hupe 🫶💪sending good vibes
Show threadChetanSep 24, 2023
@Amy_Hupe I really enjoyed your talk at SOTB yesterday. Sorry you’ve been having such a crappy time this year. I really enjoyed hearing your perspective and the fruits of the long hard think about “why the fuck am I doing this”. The world needs more of this IMHO. Hope to say hi at another conf. :)