Today when I was crossing the school grounds to go to work, there was a kindergartener standing on the playground right where he was supposed to be lining up, except that he had gotten on the playground a little earlier than he was supposed to - all alone on the playground and he’s sobbing silently, and I’m trying to figure out what’s going on and he finally sobs out “I don’t know why I’m here!”

Turns out that he simply hadn’t worked out that it would be okay if he just turned around and went back to the gate where all the other kids were. Once I suggested that we walk back over there, he was perfectly happy.

I have no patience for adults who think kids have it easy

@princesaballena I concur. My kids' lives seem way more complex than mine was at their ages. IMO, They have more expected of them, but have way less independence. They're expected to learn more and participate in more organized activities, but are less exposed to real life decision making situations sans adults telling them what to do.

It makes me worry because common sense is learned through experience. I try to give each of my kids the space they need to make decisions and occasionally fall flat on their faces. I try to encourage critical thinking even if the conclusions they draw seem silly.

And now, with some states limiting curriculum and teaching history selectively it worries me we're creating kids who will grown into careless adults who never learn to think outside the box.

@QueenOfCoffee all of this! I constantly run into the wall at school of “but they’re capable of doing it” yes five year olds are capable of a lot of things, but does that mean they should have to do them all the time?

Another pet peeve - these kids are told that they have to make good choices, but they are also told that they are not allowed to determine if they are too hot to wear a coat. Like if there is one thing you could reasonably build on, it’s the idea that if you are too hot outside to wear a coat, you should be allowed to take your coat off!