Mastodawn

@moatistic

I suspect that they don't know how to verbalise their feelings, because while they support trans people, they've been taught that thought of having sex with one of us is not something they're supposed to want and they probably don't know how to resolve this conflict in their feelings.

For a lot of people they conflate gender identity, gender expression, romantic love, platonic love, attraction and sexual desire all into one box and then heteronormativity comes in and tapes up the box and wraps it in a big label that says "you're cis-het, here's how you need to act and who you need to like".

Being transgender, we get to rip that label off and see what's really inside the box if we want to look.

We get to find out things about ourselves and deeply understand what kinds of bodies we like looking at, which ones we want to be with, what people we can form relationships with and the greyscale of depth of relationships we can have.

We get the opportunity to unscramble all that stuff and try to understand ourselves minus the lens of heteronormativity.

A lot of cis people have just left the box sealed up and aren't able to navigate their complex feelings.