Yoko's Asterisk 🏳️⚧The eight most wonderful words you can say on the internet:
" I don't know enough to have an opinion."
Frances_Larina 🏳️⚧️Love ya' but I was just fed those words today by someone who could be an ally but doesn't want to risk their neck or potentially burn any privilege. Then they said the issue of Republicans targeting trans teens was "too complicated".
@Frances_Larina In a case like that, I would trust the marginalized people who are involved.
When it comes to other kinds of marginalizations, I often don't know enough myself, but then I listen to the people who are affected directly. It's not that hard.
I wouldn't tell a Black person I know more about anti-Black racism than they do.
@Frances_Larina To bring this home, I'm not really interested in having a cis person lecture me about trans rights.
I'd way rather they say, "I don't know as much as you do, so please share your perspective and I'll support you."
I wish they would say that, as well. But that was my original point, that sometimes they use,
"I don't know enough to have an opinion," as a way of really saying,
"I disagree but realize that would make me seem like a bad person. So I'm going to use this as a coded response instead, to show my disapproval"
Str8nger@Frances_Larina @charliejane No offense but, Is it possible that you are projecting & so defensive that your knee jerk reaction is to be offended, no matter what anyone says?
That's *always* possible, especially for me. Which is why I try to be careful. But in the instance I was referring to, I've known the person my entire life. They are a strict, conservative, Republican-voting Christian. They were also very aware that going on an anti-trans rant would not be socially appropriate.
I didn't mean to do something wrong by stating my objection, and I apologize. I'd like to bow out of this convo if I may, now? I'm a fan of @charliejane, but obviously I've committed a faux pas by being negative. I am sorry for doing so.
@Frances_Larina @charliejane Thank you for sharing/explaining… no need to be sorry. Respectful dialogue & exchange is exactly what we need more of! ✌️
Claire@Frances_Larina @Str8nger @charliejane
You are very respectful and sometimes we don't always know how our words will be interpreted without knowingly wanting to offend.
You are very respectful and sometimes we don't always know how our words will be interpreted without knowingly wanting to offend.