Daryl the Admin

The pressure for introverts to act as extraverts is real.

We aren't broken.

We don't need conversation.
We don't need to get out and do.
We don't need to go to a party or concert.
We don't need to make more friends.

We need to retreat inward to recover so we can do a very select, chosen few of those things.

I promise we are okay if you let us do that.

Feb 26, 2023 at 5:26pmWeb
Show threadKayVayFeb 26, 2023
Don’t be what others think you should be.
Be who you need to be. That certainly does not only apply to introverts!
Show threadLittleScrapsoftheNorthFeb 26, 2023
@djwfyi I need to send this to my extrovert friend who thinks she needs to save me from my solitude.
Show threadThe Queen Of TreatsFeb 26, 2023
@djwfyi Honestly if there were articles with actual advice for introverts, that would be extremely helpful.
Show threadcaseyjonesedFeb 26, 2023
@djwfyi Well put.
Show threadThe Febrile MuseFeb 26, 2023
@djwfyi Amen.
Show threadTimotej PaplerFeb 26, 2023
@djwfyi thank you for this!
Show threadMysturjiFeb 26, 2023
@djwfyi
Introvert here.
EVERYONE needs Human contact.
Some just need less than others.
Please reword your message.
Isolation does no-one any good.
Show threadJames Harris - Find my bridged Bluesky accountFeb 26, 2023
@mysturji @djwfyi I find in introverts human contact is like a flashing red light in the back of our heads. We may not notice it’s flashing, but you do periodically need that social interaction. I don’t seek it out, and sometimes get overwhelmed and try to opt out of social gatherings, but find 9/10 it’s pleasant and I’ve made a mountain out of a molehill in trying to avoid things.
Show threadScott GentzenFeb 27, 2023
@djwfyi The world is full of “helpful” advice for introverts on how to be more extroverted. There isn’t enough helpful advice in the world for extroverts on how to occasionally shut the fuck up.
Show threadOliver HuntFeb 27, 2023

@djwfyi Legit the number of pro-RTO that will argue to the end of time that the only way anyone can do work is if you return to a loud distraction filled office environment, and that anyone who disagrees is just trying to avoid work is such utter BS.

I get it, you can only "get work done" if you're in an environment that is filled with people, but your insistent on forcing that on everyone else is BS, and the relentlessness of it is making me increasing assume it's malicious.

Show threadKevin Karhan Feb 27, 2023

@djwfyi *nodds in agreement*

Socializing is hard labour and it's really straining.

Like I'd rather haul 75kg dummys around all day instead kinda hard.

Show threadInfrapink (he/his/him)Feb 27, 2023
@djwfyi
Thank you.
@itsa_mammal
Show threadLooking for explanations…Feb 27, 2023
@djwfyi I was invited to a gathering of women, various ages, to celebrate the imminent birth of a baby. I went out to lunch with my oldest instead. I had a lovely day, rather than an afternoon spent forcing a smile & talking small talk with people I don’t know well.
Show threadTrike HomardFeb 27, 2023
@djwfyi I'm with you (separately, in my own house) 100% on this. Of course I want to talk with my loved ones, friends, and coworkers sometimes, I want to get out to social events sometimes, etc, but I need downtime too or I get cranky and useless.
Show threadstraygoatFeb 27, 2023
@djwfyi Most of those things would break us!
Show threadRoger Sherman Feb 27, 2023
@djwfyi yup. That said, I still like being invited to the parties I'm not going to go to. Makes me feel included.
Show threadrealcaseyrollins ✝️Feb 28, 2023
@djwfyi is there someone specific that you need to say this too?
Show threadPhil KarnMar 1, 2023
@djwfyi Sure wish I'd known this as a kid.
Show threadthepoisontartMar 2, 2023
@djwfyi I worked retail/admin for 20 years as an introvert. I now have fibromyalgia and a couple of autoimmune disorders. There's no research to support it, but I suspect regularly pushing myself to be "on" was a contributing factor.