It's why the theme of "omg, you hooked up with a duuuuuuuuuuddddeeeee?!?!" stuff in movies (The Crying Game, Ace Ventura, etc.) was so popular for so long: it reflects a real anxiety about being "tricked."

And so certain portions of society take it upon themselves to make sure trans people are as visibly trans as possible: they feel entitled to know if someone is trans.

It's all based on really gross transphobic tropes.

A lot of people genuinely seem to think they have some sort of right to know if their coworkers or acquaintances are trans. That's absurd. They don't. It's a wild invasion of privacy.

So they push for policies that make it easier to clock us. It's a big old sexist attack.

@parkermolloy
Reductive as the point may be, I like to equate it to the birthmark question.

Would you randomly ask someone if they have a birthmark? Where it is? How big, what shape, the extent to which it affects their lives?

Would you disrobe a person, sometimes forcibly, to determine if they have such a birthmark? Would you scream at them for hiding a birthmark? Would you demand they wear patches on their clothes stating they have one?

It's not that different.