Lesley Carhart Feb 9, 2023

Hey so, I’m not a lawyer, but I think this important enough to toot.

If you’re like me and you’re not legally married, and you don’t have much blood family or you’re estranged or your family is found, have a will, and put specific funeral and burial arrangements in legal documents. Even if you’re 30. Even if your partner or found family has complete legal and medical power of attorney already. Be explicit in legally binding writing.

In my state and probably others, POA is basically useless upon death. Unless there is an immediate blood relative there, the state takes over a bunch of funeral decisions and power of attorney means about diddly squat. Just please, do it.

Show threadJohn DavisFeb 9, 2023
@hacks4pancakes The best thing my parents did was have a binder with all that stuff in the house. They prearranged the funeral arrangements, they had end of life directives, everything was set up. All we had to do was open the binder and follow the instructions. I need to do that for myself.
Show threadalethe  Feb 9, 2023

@hacks4pancakes @MrSnarkyPants

I have legitimately been making a similar binder for our kiddos and just did all the paperwork to go inside. Next up - the “BC/DR plan” lol that I keep telling all my clients they need to have in hard copy in a binder. Where is the money, who gets what (though I know they’ll just do whatever they want), what rocket to fire my incinerated corpse into the ocean with, and who has to take care of my 73 cats.

All great points and thanks for the reminder.

Show threadLesley Carhart Feb 9, 2023
@alethe @MrSnarkyPants I feel like there should be a world domination plan for 73 cats
Show threadalethe  Feb 9, 2023
@hacks4pancakes @MrSnarkyPants This is likely but I feel like - since I won’t be around - perhaps it’s okay to let the kids deal with the fallout after all the years I spent making them not suck lol 😝 But yeah. It’s a lot of cats. When all these jerks leave me alone in the woods to be old, it’s going to get lonely fast. Just kidding - I’m going to relish the quiet and like HAVE HOBBIES and sh**. It will be glorious.
Show threadalethe  
Ohhhh perhaps you actually meant this…
Feb 9, 2023 at 7:44amWeb
Show threadLesley Carhart Feb 9, 2023
@alethe I mean I won’t admit to which played in my head