Lesley Carhart Feb 9, 2023

Hey so, I’m not a lawyer, but I think this important enough to toot.

If you’re like me and you’re not legally married, and you don’t have much blood family or you’re estranged or your family is found, have a will, and put specific funeral and burial arrangements in legal documents. Even if you’re 30. Even if your partner or found family has complete legal and medical power of attorney already. Be explicit in legally binding writing.

In my state and probably others, POA is basically useless upon death. Unless there is an immediate blood relative there, the state takes over a bunch of funeral decisions and power of attorney means about diddly squat. Just please, do it.

Show threadPseudo NymFeb 9, 2023
@hacks4pancakes Not a lawyer, and not legal advice, but if you have any significant assets, consider looking into establishing a trust, with you and your partner as the trustees. It's a legal entity that can "own" your assets, and has as its governing documents, your instructions and wishes for what to do with your stuff. As trustees, while alive, you can still do what you want with your assets.
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@pseudonym just, don't set up a trust like my mom did; I have been going through hell with bankers who seem to want to consider my requests for disbursements outside of the parameters of her wording for most things.

It's been a nightmare for years.

Bankers basically denying access to assets, marginalizing me even further when I was already raised in an abusive household.

Feb 9, 2023 at 6:11amWeb
Show threadPseudo NymFeb 9, 2023
@byterhymer Ugh. So sorry you have to go through that