Queer people aren't saying you CAN'T eat at Chick-fil-A or play Shitty TERF Wizard Game. We're saying that we don't see you as a trustworthy, safe friend if you choose to do so, and you don't get to dictate how we feel about it. You don't get to dictate how your choices affect others' perceptions of you.

It's not even about "boycotts." It's about literally the most basic litmus test possible: asking you to sacrifice something you DON'T EVEN NEED. We're not asking for money. We're not asking you to picket. We're not asking you to go out and hold a sign. We're literally saying "don't eat at this one particular fast food restaurant" and "don't spend money on this one particular video game," both of which are wholly unnecessary leisure activities.

And even if you CAN'T make that tiny sacrifice, literally all you have to do is just... not talk about it? Like... it's not like we're hacking people's computers to figure out whether they've played Shitty TERF Wizard Game or not. The whole conversation really does show how performative and shallow some people are.

Because we're not even saying "you can't play this game." We don't have that power. We're just saying "I do not want to associate with you if you support this." And even that much makes people rage. It's not even that people don't want to be told what to do - it's that people want to do whatever they want without facing any social consequences or negative perceptions from people.

You want no consequences for the choices you make. And you know what? Tough shit. You don't like that you're losing friends over "PoLiTiCs?" Well, I don't like that every day of my trans brothers' and sisters' lives has to be a constant battle because of shitty people who claim they "have nothing against LGBT people" and "some of their best friends are trans," but won't give up a goddamn chicken sandwich for them. But you don't like it when people think badly about you when you won't do even the simplest thing to show those "some of your best friends" that you value your friendship with them? Cry harder. I don't like it when it rains on my birthday, but clouds form and precipitation happens.

@AliothFox it's weird though, people can't seem to help themselves even when it's blatantly obvious what's going to happen.
One of the mods on a forum for my game banned someone for their profile literally saying kill trans people.
Someone else saw the ban notification and commented disapprovingly about banning someone based on something in their profile, "it reminds me of when I was banned from <other forum> for something I posted on twitter".
My response of course was, "I guess I need to check your twitter then...", "oh yea homophobia, banned".

@kevingranade I run a Telegram chat of 1000-ish users, and we put right in our rules "we will take your behavior from elsewhere into account when we moderate this chat." It’s amazing how many will "literally 1984!" that rule, like… ???

First of all, I had absolutely zero reason to look up your Twitter before you protested that rule, ya dingdong. I have better things to do with my day than comb through every new join’s socials looking for problematic shit.

Second, there’s too many communities where you can get away with being an absolute shitlord on Twitter/Furaffinity/wherever but toe the line in chat, and I didn’t want mine to be one of them.

Third, even if you’re right, "winning" a petty argument with a chat mod is never going to be worth what it costs you to do so.