Doc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

Okay, here's my hot #trans take that'll get me canceled:

I absolutely, totally, completely *do not care* if transition is just a fetish for someone, and I think that, collectively, the "it's not a fetish" line of argumentation does nothing but give our enemies ammunition.

Don't get me wrong: being trans isn't a fetish. I just don't give a flying fuck if someone transitions because of kink. And, moreover, I think there are entire "fetishes" that exist exclusively to be a gender outlet for trans people deeply in denial because of how transphobic the world is.

Psychology has studied kink and fetish really extensively, and a healthy embrace of fetish improves mental and physical health in every single metric we've measured it. Fetish is literally one of the best things a person can embrace for a longer, healthier life. And, like, if I see someone rocking a day collar at the grocery store, it doesn't bug me any, doesn't affect my life in the least. I just think the same standard should apply broadly.

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

And while I really do think that pretty much anyone who would want to transition "as part of a fetish" is just plain trans and using kink as a fig leaf, people are unbelievably wide and varied. There's an exception for literally every single part of being human I've ever cared to look for. So, logically, that means there's *someone* out there who has, or would, transition just because it was a fetish for them.

And if I met them, I'd high-five them for living their best life.

Life's too short to live in shame. 🤷‍♀️

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

And because absolutely nobody asked, I think that:

Sissy everything
Forced fem/forced masc
Basically the entirety of transformation kink (I'll entertain arguments on inanimate objects tf)

Is nothing more than trans people pining for the bodies and lives we wish we could have. 💅

Show threadTattie (old account)

@Impossible_PhD ok, but does anyone have a good explanation of why trans people are drawn towards more general TF?

(Coming from someone who used to invalidate themselves by explaining it away as TF fetish.)

Feb 5, 2023 at 5:54pmWeb
Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

@Tattie Because it allows us to cast off the bonds of our physical and social realities to live the embodied reality we wish we could have?

Also, because it's often getting turned into a super sexy form?

Show threadTattie (old account)Feb 5, 2023
@Impossible_PhD hmm, I think I'm working to a broader definition of TF than you.
Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023
@Tattie Possibly. I mean, I'm demi, so it's not like I dove deeply into this pool to plumb its depths. I just talk to people and read research.