Doc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

Okay, here's my hot #trans take that'll get me canceled:

I absolutely, totally, completely *do not care* if transition is just a fetish for someone, and I think that, collectively, the "it's not a fetish" line of argumentation does nothing but give our enemies ammunition.

Don't get me wrong: being trans isn't a fetish. I just don't give a flying fuck if someone transitions because of kink. And, moreover, I think there are entire "fetishes" that exist exclusively to be a gender outlet for trans people deeply in denial because of how transphobic the world is.

Psychology has studied kink and fetish really extensively, and a healthy embrace of fetish improves mental and physical health in every single metric we've measured it. Fetish is literally one of the best things a person can embrace for a longer, healthier life. And, like, if I see someone rocking a day collar at the grocery store, it doesn't bug me any, doesn't affect my life in the least. I just think the same standard should apply broadly.

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

And while I really do think that pretty much anyone who would want to transition "as part of a fetish" is just plain trans and using kink as a fig leaf, people are unbelievably wide and varied. There's an exception for literally every single part of being human I've ever cared to look for. So, logically, that means there's *someone* out there who has, or would, transition just because it was a fetish for them.

And if I met them, I'd high-five them for living their best life.

Life's too short to live in shame. 🤷‍♀️

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

And because absolutely nobody asked, I think that:

Sissy everything
Forced fem/forced masc
Basically the entirety of transformation kink (I'll entertain arguments on inanimate objects tf)

Is nothing more than trans people pining for the bodies and lives we wish we could have. 💅

Show threadCayla HardwickeFeb 5, 2023
@Impossible_PhD
I mean I refused transitioning cause I thought it was only a fetish for a while, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't still think it was hot
Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023
@Kaminara And like...? What's the problem with that. Frankly, I think there's a *shitload* that's hot as hell about all this.
Show threadCayla HardwickeFeb 5, 2023
@Impossible_PhD
Yep, I just convinced myself for so long that meant I didn't count as trans, but that's totally wrong, sad my first access to anything trans was a transmedicalist and I have made it my mission to counteract anyone who says that there are requirements before you can be trans cause it caused me so much harm and I can't imagine how bad it is for others
Show threadDoc Impossible
@Kaminara Ughhhhh fucking truscum. I'm sorry. 🫂
Feb 5, 2023 at 5:02pmWeb
Show threadCayla HardwickeFeb 5, 2023
@Impossible_PhD
Thank you, though at least any of their influence only effects how I see myself rather than how I treat anyone else but I continue to let myself be trans with no asterisk
Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023
@Kaminara That's still horrid! You deserved so much better.
Show threadCayla HardwickeFeb 5, 2023
@Impossible_PhD
Yes but is so much better now, used to be that I didn't consider myself trans until I was willing to do all the surgeries, and so when I realized I was likely trans I spent more than a year convincing myself that I wanted the surgeries no matter how bad they were
Show threadCayla HardwickeFeb 5, 2023
@Impossible_PhD
(the trans med lied about how bad bottom surgery was and I didn't know ffs existed at all) and then I allowed myself think I could possibly transition and *then* I found out none of that matters 😅 @stoptweetingmia is who actually mad that clear so I will always be a fan of hers