Okay, here's my hot #trans take that'll get me canceled:

I absolutely, totally, completely *do not care* if transition is just a fetish for someone, and I think that, collectively, the "it's not a fetish" line of argumentation does nothing but give our enemies ammunition.

Don't get me wrong: being trans isn't a fetish. I just don't give a flying fuck if someone transitions because of kink. And, moreover, I think there are entire "fetishes" that exist exclusively to be a gender outlet for trans people deeply in denial because of how transphobic the world is.

Psychology has studied kink and fetish really extensively, and a healthy embrace of fetish improves mental and physical health in every single metric we've measured it. Fetish is literally one of the best things a person can embrace for a longer, healthier life. And, like, if I see someone rocking a day collar at the grocery store, it doesn't bug me any, doesn't affect my life in the least. I just think the same standard should apply broadly.