Doc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

Okay, here's my hot #trans take that'll get me canceled:

I absolutely, totally, completely *do not care* if transition is just a fetish for someone, and I think that, collectively, the "it's not a fetish" line of argumentation does nothing but give our enemies ammunition.

Don't get me wrong: being trans isn't a fetish. I just don't give a flying fuck if someone transitions because of kink. And, moreover, I think there are entire "fetishes" that exist exclusively to be a gender outlet for trans people deeply in denial because of how transphobic the world is.

Psychology has studied kink and fetish really extensively, and a healthy embrace of fetish improves mental and physical health in every single metric we've measured it. Fetish is literally one of the best things a person can embrace for a longer, healthier life. And, like, if I see someone rocking a day collar at the grocery store, it doesn't bug me any, doesn't affect my life in the least. I just think the same standard should apply broadly.

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

And while I really do think that pretty much anyone who would want to transition "as part of a fetish" is just plain trans and using kink as a fig leaf, people are unbelievably wide and varied. There's an exception for literally every single part of being human I've ever cared to look for. So, logically, that means there's *someone* out there who has, or would, transition just because it was a fetish for them.

And if I met them, I'd high-five them for living their best life.

Life's too short to live in shame. 🤷‍♀️

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

And because absolutely nobody asked, I think that:

Sissy everything
Forced fem/forced masc
Basically the entirety of transformation kink (I'll entertain arguments on inanimate objects tf)

Is nothing more than trans people pining for the bodies and lives we wish we could have. 💅

Show threadMendie ​  

@Impossible_PhD

Adult Baby. / ABDL

Furry.

Both of those are also Transformation. Ask me how I know.

Feb 5, 2023 at 3:57pmWeb
Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023

@Mendie_Taoma I know next to nothing about ADBL, so no comment there. Hard squick for me, so learning about it is very challenging.

I won't say the *entirety* of furry is trans. Anthro TF definitely, but like the fursuit crowd, I've found, seems very often about being neurodivergent, about making the masking of everyday life *literal*, and being able to act in ways you otherwise have to hide, you know? I think the prevalence of trans folks in the fursuit crowd is an artifact of how common ND people are in it. Sort of a reversed cause and effect.

Show threadMendie ​  Feb 5, 2023

@Impossible_PhD Fair, and dare I say "Valid" concerns here.

I'm just saying, that at least for me, I had to have the past that I had, in order to accept that I am Trans. It was easier for me then, to take those detours, than not. Not that I knew that's what I was doing at the time.

It's why I took to your original point so well.

FWIW, I'm more Furry than AB, and even at that, I still don't own a fursuit, etc, etc. Ears and tail? Yes. The rest? No.

I've brought Furry forward, and it remains with me. [Obviously] I still have 3 diapers left from the box of 8 that I bought before Covid.

Show threadDoc ImpossibleFeb 5, 2023
@Mendie_Taoma And rock on! Honestly, from what I've read, kink is always about serving needs we can't meet in the rest of our lives, and which we sublimate into the bedroom. And like... That means you're meeting needs with it. And that's inherently a good thing.
Show threadTattie (old account)Feb 5, 2023

@Impossible_PhD I've rocked the potato persona since I was a teen, used it as a nickname socially for many years. Only recently did I realise what I was always trying to say:

"I am masking!", I was announcing to the world. "What you see in front of you is not the real me."

And it was always about both my autism and my transness.
@Mendie_Taoma