I have a relative who is #Christian (long story). For the last few years, I've bought #Chanukkah #greeting #cards for my family and gone out of my way to get this relative a #card that is more appropriate for *her* #chag.
Last year, she complained that I got a card for the wrong #holiday, explaining that it was not yet Yom #Easter, but Yom #Christmas! Who can keep track with the weird solar #calendar they follow??
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This year, I made sure to get her a Christmas card. She then pointed out that it had the wrong kind of tree (a maple tree is a tree, so I don't get what the big deal is) and the wrong kind of star! The Magen David is what my kids' #PublicSchool teachers always put on their work when they do well, so shouldn't she just accept this is the right way to draw a #star?
How can I get my relative to see that she is unreasonable in her expectations and is just being ungrateful?
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Dear #ChristianAlly,
It is difficult to go so far out of your way for your #Christian relative, only to have your efforts thrown back in your face like this.
Your Christian relative is clearly not grateful for your good-faith efforts. It's probably best to stop attempting to acknowledge her #holidays, since she seems to take offense at perceived errors rather than feeling glad that you took the time to acknowledge the holiday in the first place.
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Sadly, there's no real way for you to explain to your relative that she’s being #unreasonable. You can't control other people's feelings and behaviors, but you can draw a #boundary for yourself and decline to make further attempts to acknowledge the #holiday since your relative is determined to find fault.
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The easiest solution seems to be to show your #love and #respect for your #relative by sending her #greetings when you send them to the rest of the #family, at secular holidays like #RoshHashanah.
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🇺🇸 JewWhoHasItAll
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