Fascinated by this portion of the NY Mag story where it talks about people who don't understand "why deadnaming a trans colleague was considered 'bad'"
Because it's not their name. This isn't complicated. No one is like, "Why is it considered 'bad' that I call my colleague Bob 'Steve'?" or "Why is it bad if someone updates their last name after getting married and I keep calling them their old one?"
@parkermolloy This is the point I always try to make with people.
If you met someone and they told you their name was Bob, you would never look at them and tell them you'd rather call them "Steve" because they look more like a Steve to you.
Or what if you found out you'd been calling someone the wrong name for a while and they corrected you? Or they had a nickname they wanted you to use? All the same.
Some people just want to be rude to others.
@parkermolloy Yep.
It's really ridiculous how calling someone the name they want to be called is now considered a political action by some people.
I always have the urge to start calling them by some other name/pronoun I know they won't like, just so they can understand what they are putting people through, but... that seems kind of counter-productive. 🤷
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