Kimberlyayyyy!

Have you ever "pre-grieved"? Have you ever grieved the loss of someone long before they're actually gone? When you realize that who you remember them to be is forever gone? And they don't even know it?

Today is one of more pre-grieving times to come. Today, my heart can barely take it.

My mama doesn't remember me.

#Dementia

Jan 16, 2023 at 4:13amWeb
Show thread@misterjayem on BlueSkyJan 16, 2023
@Kimberlyayyyy I'm so sorry.
Show threadKimberlyayyyy!Jan 16, 2023
@MrJM Thank you. It hurts a lot, even though intellectually I knew this day would come. My heart isn't ready to lose my mama.
Show thread@misterjayem on BlueSkyJan 16, 2023
@Kimberlyayyyy Our hearts never are.
Show threadPatty Bluebird 🦩Jan 16, 2023

@Kimberlyayyyy
I'm sorry.
It's called anticipatory grief; I was looking for something to call it, and my therapist told me about the condition. We grieve the loss of our loved ones, even while they're alive.
This book helped me during my husband's battle with cancer

Smiling Through Your Tears: Anticipating Grief https://a.co/d/0xBLoLc

Show threadJames Trickle uPJan 16, 2023
@Kimberlyayyyy I'm sorry for your loss. It is a loss. Due to falling out I had thought Id never speak to my dad again, a few years ago, and I went through a lot of grief then. We broke through that though. My dad's last couple years, he remembered we were family but forgot the specific relationships, names, and history. More grief. When his daughter lay dying he later wondered if it was maybe his sister. He passed away 3 weeks ago. Now the rest of the grief.
Show threadRev Dr Kathleen Raphael DD LPNJan 16, 2023
@Kimberlyayyyy
Hang in there, Kimberly.
There may come sporadic moments of clarity, but then days like today will happen again, too.
"Pre-grieving" is totally normal in these types of cases.
I'm sorry this validation won't make it any easier.
One thing that might help is music.
Songs you used to sing together.
Or any other music she loves can provoke moments of cognizance.
VERY best wishes.
❤❤❤
Show threadLinda CantwellJan 16, 2023
@Kimberlyayyyy So sorry - it's heart-breaking. We are starting on the same agonizing journey. Mine remembers my name but not the fact that we spent the whole day together. Guess we need to celebrate the happy times as we provide care in these difficult ones.