debbshock
Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure that you're not, in fact, surrounded by assholes.
Jan 15, 2023 at 4:56pmWeb
Show threadAnne FisherJan 15, 2023

@debihope
"Get rid of those friends who make fun of you and don't believe in you." -- #RayBradbury

That's good #WritingAdvice , and good #LifeAdvice .

#WritingCommunity #WritersLife #Writing #ScienceFiction #SciFi

Show threadjeSuisatire neindochohh ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷJan 15, 2023

@AnneTheWriter

hmm, difficult one to digg into.

friends? or people you kinda know and who kinda know you?

friendly humourous (criticism->edited:) critique is important and powerful.

people who don't believe in you or who don't care about you?

@debihope @AnneTheWriter

Show threadAnne FisherJan 16, 2023

@jesuisatire @debihope
"Make fun of you" is different than "have fun with you." One is meant kindly; the other is not.

"Don't believe in you" as in "don't want to encourage you to succeed" or "want to tear you down." Criticism is not meant kindly; whereas critique is supportive but honest.

Show threadjeSuisatire neindochohh ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷJan 16, 2023

@AnneTheWriter

> Criticism is not meant kindly; whereas critique is supportive but honest.

-ism's in general are quite questionable.

btw
That's why I like humor, irony and satire. When it hurt's (a littel bit) there might be some spine and/or hurtful truth underneath.

@debihope

Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@jesuisatire thank you ❤️
Show threadjeSuisatire neindochohh ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷJan 16, 2023
@debihope
Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@AnneTheWriter @jesuisatire I had people, and family, doing active toxic sabotage. Once I got rid of them, life did an enormous turn for the better by a mile. Epiphany!
Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@jesuisatire @AnneTheWriter no, toxic, sabotaging people. Biggest epiphany of my life.
Show threadjeSuisatire neindochohh ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷJan 16, 2023

@debihope

Actually I guess these things are just kinda effect of human tribalism, a rule of a small social groups animals that creates "common ground" and culture by establishing an own status quo once they are adult and don't let "others" in.
A different slang, a different behavior, thinking "out of the box" is "them" and their for not "us".

Doesn't help the fact but shades a different light on how and why we are as we are and sometimes act like we act.

@AnneTheWriter

Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@jesuisatire @AnneTheWriter At the time I initially did this (it was 2010, and it became famous on Twitter, RT'd by famous people and blahblah) My then boyfriend as well as family were enormously toxic and sabotaged my recovery at every turn as well as me personally. My family was hugely abusive and I was used to thinking everything was my fault and I was defective, typical depression.
Show threadjeSuisatire neindochohh ᘛ⁐̤ᕐᐷJan 16, 2023

@debihope

> typical depression

I consider (or maybe I realized) that depression is a normal healthy reaction of a wounded animal. It get's into hybernation mode in it's wound bed to cure the sore. Other wise it would bleed to death.

On a psychological level, if you don't cure/understand the wound and it's origin, recover some energy and go up again to be hurt again that creates a never ending loop, drives you into loneliness that creates more craving for sharing emotions ..

@AnneTheWriter

Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
yes. 100%. My therapy was very helpful for child abuse and trauma in my past, that I'd never acknowledged, and various other family craziness factors. I think sometimes surviving at all is some kind of beautiful miracle that I'm lucky to have.
Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@jesuisatire @AnneTheWriter ...Once I got rid of these people, my life did a complete 180 and I felt better, actually my therapy also started helping. (I actually do have some depression and anxiety.) It was a huge epiphany for me and enabled me to change my life.
Show threadzendao42Jan 16, 2023
@debihope
Surrounded by assholes & suffering from anxiety but the rest of the world finally caught up with me on the latter
Show threadIt's Just Jenn 🏳️‍⚧️Jan 16, 2023
@debihope I feel like it's both things. 🤔
Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@Tweetfiction me too sometimes
Show threadHam on WryJan 16, 2023

@debihope

I'd boost this 10,000 times if I could.

Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@HamonWry I love you. Let's run away together. No seriously, this is my "famous" tweet, the one I'm known for. But it was the biggest epiphany of my life, seriously. Once I realized how many toxic people were sabotaging me and I eliminated them, my life did a complete 180. My therapy actually started working. I do thank you and feel the same.
Show threadFearless FriendJan 16, 2023
@debihope yes, so true. That was my problem in the 1990s and early 2000s. I thankfully ditched them in 2002.
Show threaddebbshockJan 16, 2023
@Digital_Archivist that counts as a big win. Congratulations on surviving at all and I'm glad you're here.
Show threadTHIS ACCOUNT HAS MOVEDJan 17, 2023
@debihope like, say, the human race?
Show threadBuy nothing newJan 17, 2023
@debihope Or living in a doomed environment
Show threadEveyFeb 21, 2023
@debihope haha, that’s good advice.
Show threaddebbshockFeb 21, 2023
@EveyJo it changed my life
Show threadEveyFeb 21, 2023
@debihope I’m glad Deb, wish my daughter would do this.