KaCi 
One reason why many Allistics have a problem with Autistic people, who "don't look autistic" and call themselves disabled, is their thinking pattern of hierarchy and competition. We are "too different" and "too similar" at the same time. They don't want to support someone, who might be even "better" in any aspect than they are. In their view only people who are lower in their idea of hierarchy, who for sure can't be serious competitors are allowed to call themselves disabled and be supported.
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Jan 11, 2023 at 10:20amWeb
Show threadLoukas (They/Them) 🏳️‍⚧️Jan 11, 2023
@KaCi @actuallyautistic Yes, and this has its roots in the general social norm that says people shouldn't get help, and shouldn't be supported - hence such support and help must be rationed. That's why this norm is the enemy of us all.
Show threadIza Running AgainJan 11, 2023

@KaCi @actuallyautistic

The neurotypical love for hierarchy is probably the neurotypical social norm that causes me the most difficulty.

Show threadEcosaurian 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 Jan 11, 2023

@KaCi
My first though was it's the Uncanny Valley - you look like me but you're not one of us therefore you're a threat...

But it's probably just that humans aren't nice, and like to stand on other people to climb.

@actuallyautistic

Show threadKaCi Jan 11, 2023
@Ecosaurian
I don't think it's human nature otherwise we wouldn't have come so far as species, but it's part of the ideology that is promoted by people in power to keep theirs.
I learned a lot about human nature and it's connection to power when reading "HumanKind" by Rutger Bregmann. It's a great book and one of those I wish everyone read.
Show threadEcosaurian 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 Jan 11, 2023

@KaCi
That sounds interesting - I have 4 books sitting on my desk at the moment waiting on me to dive in, but I'll add that to my wishlist for reference.

You're right that as a species we wouldn't have survived without cooperation (if not altruism), though I feel quite demoralised now by the human race. They feel ... inhuman.

Something I remember from studying animal behaviour (a special interest from decades ago) was about populations where some individuals would gain advantages by being sneaky opportunists, rather than competing or cooperating. When it is rare in the population it is an advantage to those individuals, but when it becomes mainstream it's quite destructive.

That's like the prisoners dilemma - if you both cooperate you both get a good result. If one defects they get a great result and the other gets a bad result. If both defect, they both get a very bad result.

We might originally have been predisposed to cooperate, but individuals taking more than their fair share have exploited the social structure until it's imbalanced.

What we're seeing in society is like most people trying to cheat (defect) because that used to give them an advantage, but if everyone does it they all get the worst result.

Show threadGilberto "Velenux" FicaraJan 11, 2023
@KaCi @actuallyautistic wow I never thought about it this way, but you might be on to something...