I used to think I was cis and assumed that all dudes want to be girls. Now I know I’m trans and still assume all dudes want to be girls.

@rooster I feel the same, mostly because I can't fathom wanting to be a dude.

But I've met some lovely trans men who clearly do and the joy and euphoria is the same. It's amazing to see. :)

@EmilyGB20 seeing trans men thrive with testosterone and masculinity is the surest proof that those things aren’t evil, just not for me.

@rooster Right?

It's not for me, but I cannot deny the joy and happiness they take in it -- anymore than they would deny ours with estrogen.

So I avoid the "testosterone is poison" and go with "I was running on the wrong fuel".

And now that my engine is running on the right stuff, goodness -- it's amazing.

@EmilyGB20 @rooster I find listening to trans dudes' experiences really healing.

Growing up, there were so many things I hated like when my aunts would buy me nice guy clothes. I would wear them once so my aunt could see i appreciated the gift and then hang it in the closet forever.

Every time I see a trans dude enjoying those things, it reminds me that my aunts really were trying to give me a good thing. It just wasn't a thing I wanted.

@rooster @faithisleaping @EmilyGB20 Same! Something about seeing what masculinity can look like when it’s constructed from the ground up by guys who have had to actually fight for it and think about their relationship to it, the way it can be warm and generous and sturdy, is really heartwarming, even as it’s still very much not for me
@EmilyGB20 @rooster I tend to go with "It's poison for me, but medicine for him and vice versa"