jessica by the bayDec 19, 2022

This is your year non-trans folks. This is the year

to be the one to call out grandma for misgendering your non-binary cousin,

to point out how fucked up your uncle’s transphobic jokes are, or

to tell your mom that her excuses for deadnaming someone aren’t good enough.

It’s time to make this your problem. How are you going to stand up for trans people this holiday?

Show threadOld Lady Whispering HushDec 19, 2022
@rooster I'm not sure I'm ready to take on everything this Christmas. But I can commit to correcting anyone who deadnames or misgenders my wife's cousin. Don't be a coward just because he isn't there to be hurt. Thanks for the push :)
Show threadjessica by the bayDec 19, 2022
@Octaviaminor yes please if you can. Focus on preventing harm to the trans people closest to you. Take the burden off of them, and show your family there are consequences to not respecting someone you love.
Show threadBoabieTheBarmanDec 19, 2022
@rooster @Octaviaminor “call out” is a stupid phrase to use. People can be educated without being insulted. It’s totally hypocritical to demand respect while showing none
Show threadJunebugDec 19, 2022
@BoabieTheBarman @rooster @Octaviaminor thank you! Respect goes both ways and lots of acceptance does also. Acceptance for the trans community and acceptance for the struggle, but nonetheless good intention, of their family members to change and adapt to new norms of behaviour. It takes time, patience and compassion on all sides.
Show threadOld Lady Whispering HushDec 19, 2022
@Junebug @BoabieTheBarman @rooster I think we're talking about two different things here. Kind corrections are appropriate for family members who are trying their best and slip up (burden is on cis people here to correct on behalf of loved ones). Calling out is justified for deliberate and hateful misgendering/deadnaming.
Show threadBoabieTheBarmanDec 19, 2022
@Octaviaminor @Junebug @rooster yes but you just stereotyped someone’s grandparents in making your point, which is equally unfair
Show threadsaul b   🎡
@BoabieTheBarman @Octaviaminor @Junebug @rooster “stereotyped someone’s grandma” Jesus Christ these ppl are being so patient with you and you’re literally looking to take everything the worst way possible. “Stereotypes someone’s grandma” omg I’m so sorry they should have used cousin or uncle as an example instead. 🙄
Dec 20, 2022 at 4:21pmWeb